Now, according to the National Center for Health Statistics, 75 percent of Americans say it’s okay to have and raise children when the parents are living together but not married. So how did we get here?
Fifty years ago, a Gallup poll was done showing only 21% of Americans said premarital sex was acceptable; 68% said it was wrong. That was 1969. So what happened to change the attitudes of people about marriage over five decades?
Skyrocketing divorce rates among heterosexuals have added to the problem, as well as the increasing divorce rate among Christians. Did you know that since around the early 1960s, the divorce rate in America has increased over 100% to where now more than one out of every two marriages ends in divorce?
Bisexual, pedophile, and sexologist, Alfred Kinsey did much damage to people’s healthy views of sex and marriage in the 1950s. Dig up the truth about Kinsey sometime, not the whitewashed Hollywood version. He used children in his sex experiments as well as prostitutes.
Planned Parenthood’s founding feminist, adulterer, eugenicist, racist, and atheist, Margaret Sanger promoted sexual freedom at a time when the word abortion was spoken about in hushes and whispers. She was among the first to promote monogamous marriage as a ball and chain! We’ve now reached the point where killing a baby in the womb is just another form of birth control.
The Feminist movement and cry for women’s liberation and equality sounded good in its early stages, but it is no longer about equal pay or equal rights. It has become a liberal, anti-family, socialist movement detrimental to God-ordained, natural marriage and healthy families.
Then, a major cultural event happened fifty years ago, billed as “3 Days of Peace and Music” in White Lake, New York. Woodstock drew nearly 500,000 people in 1969. There were drugs, nudity, sex, rock and roll, and a lot of mud from the rain.
It is widely regarded as a pivotal moment in pop music history and the peak of the hippie counterculture. Ideas of rebellion against authority, peace, love, sex, tolerance, and unity resonated throughout the country – bringing us to today’s godless culture in which two thirds of adults (65%) say it’s a good idea to live with one’s significant other before getting married.
But one of the saddest findings to me is that in a survey of professing Christians, almost half of them (48%) live with or have previously lived with their boyfriend or girlfriend. This makes me wonder if we’re all reading the same Holy Bible.
We didn’t see all the causes decades ago, but we’re sure seeing the effects today.
Journalist, Daniel Greenfield stated:
The deconstruction of marriage is part of the deconstruction of gender and family and those are part of the long program of deconstructing man. Once each basic value has been rendered null and void, inverted and revealed to be random and meaningless, then man is likewise revealed to be a random and meaningless…
For example, lesbian journalist, Masha Gessen literally has three kids who have five parents; She even admitted that homosexual activists were lying about their political agenda. She boldly declared,
“The institution of marriage is going to change, and it should change. And again, I don’t think it should exist.”
You heard right. ‘Marriage shouldn’t even exist.’
Prior to the judicial tyranny of Obergefell v. Hodges by the U.S. Supreme Court in 2015, the agenda had been well underway to remove America’s moral anchors and replace them with humanism and hedonism.
The final goal of marriage activists and anarchists was not for gays and lesbians to be able to marry. The agenda was and is to chip away at Christianity, decimate the family unit, eliminate natural marriage, and render the term “marriage” meaningless.
Do I exaggerate? I’ve read stories about a woman marrying herself, another woman marrying her two cats, a woman marrying a dolphin, a man marrying his dog, a man marrying a video game character, and another man marrying a robot, so we’re well on the way to meaninglessness.
In 1979, this is how Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary defined marriage:
“the state of being married; b. the mutual relation of husband and wife; wedlock; c. the institution whereby men and women are joined in a special kind of social and legal dependence for the purpose of founding and maintaining a family;”
Here’s a modern definition for marriage today:
- “the state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law; the mutual relation of married persons.
- any of the diverse forms of interpersonal union established in various parts of the world… including opposite-sex marriage, same-sex marriage, plural marriage, and arranged marriage.”
And here’s how Jesus defines marriage:
“But from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh’; …Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mark 10:6-9
The marriage covenant has now become the marriage agreement – and only if it meets my needs and is convenient to stay with the other person. So now, many people just want to take their prospective mate for a test drive! In the late 1950s, very few couples lived together without being married while today, the cohabitation rate for women prior to their first marriage is around seventy (70%) percent. Seventy.
Some of these stats are not just cultural indicators; these are judgments on the Christian church and our lack of moral influence in America over the last fifty to a hundred years. We have generally been silent as the sexual revolution paraded through our culture decades ago leading to the sexual anarchy we see today.
John Stott once stated:
We should not ask, ‘What is wrong with the world?’ for that diagnosis has already been given. Rather we should ask, “What has happened to the salt and light?
It is now up to Bible-believing Christians to work on our own marriages and help repair relationships as well as the understanding of the true meaning of God-designed, natural marriage. No society can endure without healthy families and strong marriages. Consider this another warning and a sign of the times in which we live.
*Taken in part from the book, Redefining Truth, chapter 9, “Can Natural Marriage be Saved?”