Chapter 13. Self-Acceptance Series

13.1. Self Hatred

Perspective

( John 14:21-23 ) Through Jesus Christ our human spirit is in union with the Spirit of God. Jesus is the mediator between God and man. He reveals the Father, unites us with the Father, and comes with Father to make His home with us. Jesus’ life radiates throughout our soul-that is, our memories, feelings, willings, the intuitive and imaginative faculties, even to our sensory and physical being. His Light encounters the dark places of unforgiveness and woundedness within us: healing then can take place.

Hope

( Rom. 8:1-2 ) No longer living our lives from a guilt and shame ridden past in which we hated or were hated by others resulting in self pity, sense of inferiority, failure to accept self or others, we realize our true center is Christ, and we are to operate from the law of the Spirit of Life. We are to acknowledge this self full of hatred and begin to deal with it God’s way. Confess and repent before Christ, this opens the heart to receive healing from the One Who redeems.

( 2 Cor. 5:17,21 ) Self hatred is usually hidden deep in the heart through repeated acts of being violated, and our subjective focus on our own means to deal with the evil without reference to God. This is idolatry, trying to deal with sins through one’s own feelings. But Christ took your sin on the cross: give it to Him. Now be free, in Christ you were made good with the goodness of God. Your self acceptance must be grounded in the awareness that God accepts you in Christ. Thus keep your eye focused on the Source of your salvation, not on your ‘diseased’ habitual attitudes formed over the years.

( Rom. 8:12-13 ) No need to live from the lower self, obeying its drives. But by an act of your will acknowledge your need for emotional healing. Deal simply with inner insecurities and self hatred and gain a secure identity in Christ. You are justified in Jesus, learn to Practice the Presence of Christ. Choosing to think this way, healing follows.

Change

( Matt. 16:24-26 ; Gal. 5:18 ; Rom. 6:6 ) We must differentiate between the self that works with the principle of evil and selfishness, and the self that abides in Christ and collaborates with Him. That is the true self, the justified new creation, that soul that is saved and lives eternally. Thus, practice Christ-awareness to counteract self-awareness.

( Isa. 61:10 ; Gal. 5:18 ) Only with the full acceptance of this new self can we find our true center, the place of quiet strength and solid being, that center from which we know and see ourselves to be white-robed in the very righteousness of Christ Himself.

( Matt. 5:23-24 ; Matt. 6:14-15 ) Failure to forgive others and or to receive forgiveness for ourselves are great blocks of wholeness in Christ. This results in a judgmental spirit that is harsh and demanding on self and others. This strong perfectionist attitude demands the impossible from self and others, creates a fear of future events, and develops a sense of aloneness and abandonment in times of decision. All of this compounds preoccupation with one’s own guilt, and a compulsion to compete for position and success. By forgiving and being and acting forgiven, these diseased attitudinal patterns will gradually heal.

Prayers for Restoring the Soul

•           Prayer of Thanksgiving

Holy Father, I thank You that I am reconciled to You through the death of Your Son, and that through faith in Him as my Saviour from sin, my heart is not only washed clean from my own sin, but it can be delivered from its grievous reactions to the sins and shortcomings of others around and against it. Because of Your Son, Father, I can look straight up to You and dare to let all these feelings surface, and I do so now, knowing that Christ is ready to take them and give me in exchange His Life and Your perspective on myself and others. Accept my thanksgiving, O God our Father. I thank You for Christ who has redeemed me from sin and death and who is even now pouring His eternal life into me.

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of the Father, in whom I am to abide, to fully live, move and have my being (my true and new self), I direct my thanksgiving to You. I bow before You as Lord of my life, and I thank

You, Precious Holy One, crucified for me, that Your blood justifies me, that in oneness with You, Your goodness is mine.

Holy Spirit, Thou who dost so constantly and faithfully mediate to us the love of both Father and Son, I thank You now for the grace to receive all that is mine as a child of God. Empower me now as I renounce the sin of self-hatred and as I move toward the goal of wholly accepting my true identity as a child of God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

•           Prayer of Petition

Well you know, O Lord, that I have been unable to appropriate Your holiness and righteousness as I wish; I have been unable to practice Your Presence because my feelings about myself are so diseased. I have

looked to You, just now, as my dying Saviour, taking into Yourself my sin and darkness, my diseased feelings about You, others, myself. I thank You that you have done this and that in time even my feeling self will reflect this. Heretofore, Lord, I have taken my eyes from You and from the objective truth and have descended into and lived out of my unhealed feeling self. This, with Your help, Lord, I will cease doing, and I will note the very moment I am ‘living out of ‘that subjective, hurting place and will look straight up to You for the healing word You are always sending. I confess to You the sin of pride that is bound up in my self-hatred. I thank You for Your forgiveness and for the full release from it.

•           Prayer of Renunciation

Now, Lord, in Your Name and with the grace You shower upon me, I renounce the sin of self-hatred.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

2 Pet. 1:4

Devotion:

Daily pray and meditate on the Prayer of Thanksgiving, the Prayer of Petition, and the Prayer of Renunciation. See Section A.12, “Anchor Posts” for more insight.

Put-Off/Put-On:

Whenever diseased memories arise, see those thoughts flowing to the cross. Forgive the ones who offended – do not react by feelings – give it all to the Lord and ask Him how you should respond to all situations. Visualize Rom. 6:3-6 , and see all offenses buried with Christ, and see yourself in the Resurrected Christ, free at last to begin living (See also Section 9.2, “Sin, Self, Suffering” ).

Reference: See [19][Payne1] for further reading.

 

13.2. Self-Acceptance

Perspective

( Rom. 7:18 ; Rom. 8:12-13 ; Luke 9:23-24 ) Nothing good lives in our sinful nature. We are not to look to our past, to change or heal, or to reform past memories through self-realization or self-actualization. We are to put the diseased memories to death with Christ on the Cross. Look to Christ, forgive others or be forgiven: then we find healing for past memories.

We are not called to self-realization but to identification with Christ. Our true self at any stage of becoming is in Christ. All the wounds we suffered in the past, accept as a reality and see Jesus take these wounds on the cross. There He took upon and into Himself our darkness and depression and gives us in exchange His light and life.

Hope

( Eph. 4:17-24 ; Eph. 3:16-19 ) Failing to love ourselves aright, we will love ourselves amiss. Concern over our sins, our ‘inferiority’ or shortcomings are examples of the wrong form of self-love. Our reactions to the past must be identified, recognized and come to terms with. Our grievous and subjective reactions to the shortcomings and sins of others against us, must be accepted and not denied, and forgiveness extended. Once these are identified, we take them to God the Father and with Him we deal with the situation. His truths begin to flow into our being and our souls and we become that which God says we are in His Son.

( 2 Cor. 13:5 ; 2 Cor. 3:16-18 ; Gal. 4:19 ; Luke 10:19 ) You have the nature of God – the great and mighty Holy Spirit – and you are the son of God. You have the authority that is in heaven, all you have to do is to go and practice it. Practice of who and what you are in Christ Jesus, not what you were or have done, or what was done to you in the past.

( 2 Cor. 5:21 ; James 4:10 ) We cannot become good enough on our own. We can’t heal ourselves by our reasons or feelings or self-effort. We must live from a new center: Jesus Christ. It is He Who will lead and direct us and make our lives significant.

Change

( Isa. 55:1-3 ; Isa. 61:1 ) Self-hatred in a Christian is a substitute for humility – it belongs to pride. We are to repent of this focus on self. Go to the Lord, listen to His words and grow into His image. We bring dysfunctional, sinful, prideful patterns in the thought life and imagination into submission to Christ. In listening prayer, every thought of the mind, every imagination of the heart, is brought captive to Christ.

( Gal. 5:16-18 ) To walk in the Spirit is to live in the present moment – always looking to Christ – always practicing His Presence – always moving in tandem with him.

( Ps. 51 ) No matter how deep the wounding and horrendous the sin, the following will release us from self-hatred and shame: the acknowledgement of ourselves as sinful from birth, the reception of Christ’s forgiveness, and the extending of this forgiveness to others, We are to train our minds to think, to think through all the issues of our lives with God. Then, as we learn to hear God, we will receive from Him the true word, enabling us to replace our old diseased negatives with the positive word He is always sending.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

Ezek. 36:25,27

Devotion:

Read Ps. 1:1-3 , practice the Presence of the Lord.

Put-Off/Put-On:

Review Rom. 6 , sit or kneel quietly before the Cross of Christ. Ask the Lord to reveal to you the repenting you need to do, and the changes you need to make in your life. Make notes and plan to accomplish these changes. Pray this: “Lord, I have hurt others, I have not loved You or others as I should; forgive me, O Lord, even as I forgive others, even as I forgive all the circumstances of life”. Review Section 5.2, “Transforming the Natural Self” .

13.3. Healing of Memories: Forgiveness of Sin

Perspective

( Gal. 2:20 ; 2 Cor. 3:16-18 ) At the moment of the new birth, God’s Spirit descends into the human spirit – a place where the Holy Spirit lives, from which He radiates up through the soul as well as the physical body. Thusly, believers are to Practice His Presence within which opens up channels for healing of man’s soul: the basis for further becoming in Christ. The Spirit is the inner depth of man’s being – the higher aspect of his personality. The soul expresses man’s own special and distinctive individuality. The spirit is man’s nonmaterial matter looking Godward. The soul is that same nature of man looking earthward and touching things of sense.

Hope

( Ps. 32:5 ; Luke 11:2-4 ; Isa. 61:1-4 ) When we forgive others and receive God’s forgiveness for our sins, God’s Spirit can now radiate through this barrier of unforgiveness and proceed to heal our soul. Forgiveness of sin impacts the soul in its totality-emotional, feeling, intuitive, imaginative faculties. God’s healing Presence wonderfully heals man’s deepest hurts and memories.

( Rom. 8:11 ; 1 Cor. 2:9-11 ) Jesus is the living fountain rising up into the wells of our personality. Dwelling upon His Presence begins the process: of healings, of guilt, of experiences, of rejection, of diseased or unnatural feelings, of desires and thoughts that are repressed: all the shameful past. The Holy Spirit is God’s finger on sore memories. Each incident that comes to light, we are to forgive: Then we will receive from God illumination and healing, and the subsequent steps we are to take to maintain healing.

( Col. 2:5 ; 1 Cor. 5:3-5 ) Time and space are creatures, they are created. Jesus, the Infinite One, is outside of time and space. All times are present to Him where nothing has yet passed away and nothing is still to come. All our times, together with all that we are, are eternally present to God. . Thus, through prayer we overcome the obstacles of time and space. God, eternally present, He is present to all our times-past, present and future. As we learn to collaborate with Him in prayer, He will heal all. Time alone does not heal or erase our sins. Only by our repentance and His blood is sin and guilt lifted from past and present.

Change

( Matt. 6:14-15 ; Matt. 18:7 ; John 16:33 ) Failure to forgive another is a most formidable barrier to wholeness. Always, at the bottom of everything that is amiss, we will find pride which needs to be confessed. Our failure to forgive the merely petty things of life – the everyday irritations and transgressions that gets to us – leads us easily to despise those who offend us in these ways.

( 1 Pet. 3:8-11 ; 2 Cor. 5:15-17 ) We are to see others as Christ sees them. Ask the Lord to enable you to see the other person through His eyes. We will see the other’s strengths and be reminded of our own weaknesses, and Christ’s patience with the petty within ourselves. When tempted to react, see your irritation, anger, resentment come up and flow unto Christ on the Cross Who, in our stead, takes and carries all our sin and darkness. Then ask Christ to fill all these spaces where this pain, anger, resentment have been with His healing love and light. To do the contrary, to hate another is to eventually hate and destroy yourself.

( 1 Pet. 2:23 ; Rom. 6:3-6 ; Dan. 9:4-19 ; Neh. 1:5-11 ; Matt. 18:18 ) Being grievously wounded by someone, we are inclined to react in kind and place ourselves in gross sin as well. We must confess these sins before God that have deeply pierced the soul. With the confession, we extend forgiveness to the sinning one: Then the power of that sin to continue to wound and to shape the sufferer is broken. We do not forgive evil, Satan, demons and evil principalities, but we forgive “persons” in the clutches of that evil.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

1 Pet. 3:9-11

Devotion:

BSAF on Matt. 5:44 ; Eph. 4:25-32 .

Put-Off/Put-On:

List in specific terms incidents and the people who offended and wounded you. See that person objectively controlled and dominated by sin. Ask God to forgive you for reacting in kind to the offense, then ask God for grace to forgive the offender because he does not really know what he is doing. Ask the Lord for grace to separate your identity from the offender so that you can accept yourself. Now free to be identified with Christ, God’s grace will flow in to work forgiveness through you to the offender Review Section 9.2, “Sin, Self, Suffering” .

13.4. Bind, Loose, Cast-out

Perspective

( Col. 1:12-14 ; Rom. 12:1-2 ; Deut. 30:19 ) We have been translated from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of Light. Since God redeemed us, forgiven us, Satan no longer has any authority over our lives. We are under God’s authority as long as we walk in the Light as He is in the Light. God put us into His Kingdom, now it is up to us to keep ourselves there. We determine whether we are blessed or cursed while on this earth. Our problem is not with Satan, Jesus dealt with him on the cross 2000 years ago. Our problem and resolution of same is in our relationship with God. Obeying God’s commands we are blessed, to do the contrary is to subject ourselves to the curse.

( Col. 2:13-15 ; Gal. 4:4-5 ) When Christ died, we died with Him. When He arose from the dead, we rose with Him. Thus, we never have to die for our sins. Christ has already paid the penalty for our sins. He bore the shame, the guilt, the judgment, the condemnation: the punishment for our sins, Being freed by His redemption, we are adopted as sons, heirs of God, joint-heirs with Jesus. Jesus made us kings and priests. Satan has been stripped of his power over our lives, we belong to God now and forever.

( Isa. 53:4 ; Isa. 11:2-4 ; Matt. 9:6 ; 2 Cor. 5:17-21 ) Jesus took upon Himself all sins we committed, and the sins committed against us, we are freed from bondages and yokes. This fact is to be realized in the depths of our being through counselors, study of God’s word, prayer and obedience. In time, His Presence within us becomes real in our inner man. Through these means, we bind and loose ourselves from sin as we appropriate what God has done for us, in us and as us.

( Rom. 6:4-7 ) In baptism, we are ‘buried with Him’ and are ‘raised to life with Him’. Visualize this imagery of baptism, see the releasing of your soul from sin, and call forth the new self in the Risen Christ. The healing of the soul is never separated from this central doctrine of the forgiveness of sin. This is the area where we are mostly held in bondage and enslaved. Daily, visualize the imagery of baptism, see self free and loosed from slavery, and catapulted into the realm and reign of righteousness: clothed by Jesus Himself.

( Matt. 16:13 ; Heb. 4:12 ; Rom. 5:17 ) God’s word revealed to your spirit sets in motion the forces and power of deliverance: of healing of the spirit, mind, memories, emotions and the will. Clothed in His garments of Righteousness, we rule and reign through righteousness on this earth: we can’t lose for winning.

Change

( Matt. 6:14 ; John 20:21-23 ; Matt. 18:18 ) We do not ‘bind’ or ‘loose’ demons, principalities and powers, etc. In Christ’s Name , we command them to leave, knowing that Christ’s death and resurrection has already bound them. However, as sin is unremitted in a life, the demons and other dark forces have power in that life. Therefore, it is the sins and the effects of these sins we are to bind and loose. It is by confession and repentance that one binds the sins, and looses himself from its control and power.

( Gen. 4:6-7 ; Gal. 5:16-23 ; 1 John 1:9 ) Sin is an entity and ready to pounce on you when you fail to name and renounce your sin. Demons have authority in your life when you give them access by sinning. It is sin that is to be bound and the person loosed from it, not the casting out of demons. However, long standing sin patterns leave wounds in the soul, this needs healing which takes time in applying God’s word to one’s life. During this process, demons may reside in these wounds. These are easily expelled once they are discerned by God’s leading.

( Eph. 6:10-18 ; Mark 16:15-18 ; Matt. 12:36-37 ; Neh. 6:3-4 ) Do not focus on Satan, demons or principalities or powers. Do not practice praying against Satan rather than to God. You choose the battleground, not Satan. Jesus already bound Satan at the cross. Thus, our emphasis is to be on God, to sing and to speak to God, to worship, give thanksgiving and praise. Always be found practicing the Presence of God, and not Satan. While doing this, as demons, principalities and powers are discerned directly in our path, we speak directly to them and command them to leave. Our emphasis is to be on the cross. We are set free by what Jesus done. It is finished. We are not to waste time talking to Satan or his hordes. We are in a battle already won. Do not guess but be led by the Holy Spirit when confronting the enemy is required: the Holy Spirit will lead you to bind or loose or to cast out as appropriate.

Note: Long-standing sin patterns cause diseased attitudes and consequent aberrant and perverse behavior. These wounds through God’s word take time to heal, and in consequence, perverse behavior will still be manifested until full healing is accomplished. This is not necessarily demons being manifested. Diseased attitudes cannot be cast out, they are still part of the human personality. They are to be dealt with and healing by God’s word, through praise and thanksgiving. Thus, the emphasis in any case is to be on God, on His word, on the practicing of the Presence of God in our human spirit. See Rom. 8:1-16 describing the battle between our human spirit and the desires of the flesh. As our human spirit stands united with the Holy Spirit the desires of our mortal body are dead. Realize, as sons of God, that God’s Spirit within enables us to rule and reign in life in righteousness.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

Rom. 8:12-14

Devotion:

BSAF on Rom. 6:8-14 .

Put-Off/Put-On:

Roots of sin cause diseased attitudes, motives, intentions, perverse behavior patterns. These are addressed by the renewing of the mind and living according to what God says to think and to do in all of life’s confrontations. Watch out for the disease of introspection, of over analyzing the past, of practicing the presence of the ‘old man’ through endless dialogue with past incidents. Draw self to God and not to co-dependent others. Bearing this in mind, work out Section A.2, “Think And Do List” . List sins, patterns of thinking and doing, and develop Section A.4, “Victory Over Sin Worksheet” to deal with entrenched sin patterns. Through these devises, practice the Presence of the Lord, see and expect healing. Change takes time, it is a process. Review Section 8.2, “Sins of the Flesh/Self of the Flesh” and Section 11.9, “Union with God” .

13.5. Barriers to Wholeness – Failure to Receive Forgiveness

Perspective

( Eph. 2:4-5 ; 1 John 1:9 ; Heb. 10:22 ) It is purely an act of God alone, by His grace, that we have been forgiven of all our sins. We do nothing to earn it, either by fasting or praying. We simply receive it by acknowledging our sinfulness. Realize that Christ died for and freely gives redemption by the forgiveness of our sins. We are made whole and washed clean in our conscience and kept that way by the water of the word.

Hope

( Rom. 8:12 ; Rom. 10:4 ; Luke 21:36 ; Rev. 12:11 ) Some do not receive forgiveness because they are still trying to be ‘good enough’ on their own merit, striving to be perfect under the law. Instead we are to be in listening obedience to Christ and His word, trusting in His righteousness: the practice of His Presence rather than practice the presence of the ‘old man’. It is by the blood of the Lamb and by our testimony to all that Jesus did on the cross and in His Resurrection, that our sins are forgiven: by His resurrection we live in righteousness. We are to act forgiven by what Jesus did, receiving this truth is our responsibility. God will not do this for us.

( Ps. 19:12-13 ; Ps. 139:23-24 ; Rom. 7:15-20 ; Eph. 4:22-24 ) Allow God to search your heart, kneel as sinners before Him, acknowledge and assume that you may have been trying to deal with sin by your efforts, condemning yourself for failing and judging yourself as not ‘good enough’. Or believing that your sin was too gross for God to forgive. Let God deal with these subjective feelings. Change your focus to the objective fact that only Christ can deal with your sin: that your responsibility is to accept that you are a sinner, and that it is Christ’s blood that makes you a saint when you confess and repent. By an act of faith, receive forgiveness by Christ and from that point on act forgiven. Guilt, shame and conviction is to bring us to the point of confession and repentance which brings forth a covering of righteousness. We are to walk in this spirit, the spirit of Righteousness: Christ Himself.

Change

( Gen. 6:5 ; Matt. 12:33-35 ; Jer. 17:9 ) We are not only to deal with specific acts of sin but with its roots. The structure of sin in the human personality originated when we turned from the truth in God to embrace a lie about Him. As we respond to life from our darkened heart and mind, sinful thoughts and deeds flowed forth as water from a polluted fountain. Our heart becomes a reservoir of unconscious disordered motivations and responses . We deal with this by no longer living by our feelings but by our will and our will based on the word of God which, in time, will change the root of our being.

( Eph. 4:17-18 ; Hosea 4:6-7 ; Rom. 1:18-23 ; Eph. 4:22-32 ) Ignorance will destroy you and your family. Indifference will harden your heart until you feel that you cannot forgive yourself anymore and give up entirely. Biblical change is a process. Realize you cannot handle or deal with sin but realize you are completely dependent on the Lord Jesus Christ. Confess and repent daily, see Jesus take your sin into and upon Himself: setting you free. Act forgiven, honor Christ by thinking and doing and being what the word says to think, to speak, and to act – daily growing into the image of Christ.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

Rom. 12:1-2

Devotion:

BSAF on Rom. 6:3-6 ; James 1:19-21 .

Put-Off/Put-On:

Work out Section A.2, “Think And Do List” and begin to practice what God wants you to think and to do. See also Section 9.1, “Cleansing and Purifying the Soul” .

13.6. Healing Presence

Perspective

( Eph. 4:22-24 ; Rom. 6:3-14 ; Heb. 4:12 ) By being indifferent to what we think, we separate ourselves from His Presence: casualness is a default into self-consciousness, a fall from God-consciousness. Becoming persons, the fullness of being, evolves as we remain in Christ. God’s word and love is truly something more stern and splendid than mere kindness. This love divides darkness from light, the old self from the new self.

Hope

( Eph. 5:13 ; Gen. 2:18 ; John 17:21 ) Our Lord is not defined in terms of individuality and independence, but in terms of personality: “The Father and I are one”. The true self, of personality, man as fully human is to speak of man’s fellowship with God and with others. Because evil is separation from God, from self, and from others, to know ourselves in this respect is to begin being healed of the effects of the Fall.

( Matt. 7:11-12 ) Remedy is to forsake our horizontal posture, looking to the creature. Instead, straighten up in Christ, and seek to meet the needs of others rather than using others solely for our own needs. It is in the state of ‘listening obedience’ to His commands to bless others, denying self, where we find healing, completion: our true identity.

( John 14:21,26 ; John 15:11 ; Deut. 30:7-14 ) Spiritual and mental wholeness consists simply of obedience, of serving others, of learning to invoke the Presence of God. When God is centered in us and we in him, we have a home within: a true self or center out of which we live.

Change

( James 5:19 ; Matt. 4:4 ) Self-centeredness involves seeing yourself walking alongside of yourself, viewing self as the center of all things which produces self-pity, envy, covetousness, and pride. Jesus as the new Adam came practicing always the Presence of His Father. The worship of God is the ultimate denial of the old self in separation. If you do not practice the Presence of God, you will practice the presence of another.

( Phil. 2:12-13 ) When we make our will one with God, we find the integration of personality begins to take place: an identity that God can only give. Review your dependence or need of others: being controlled by others: mother, father, circumstances of life. Ask God to give you understanding to get at the roots of this idolatry or dependence, of getting a sense of value or worth from created things.

( Ps. 90:17 ; Luke 4:1 ; Luke 5:17 ; Acts 1:2 ) Allow God to give you favor and success, learn to bless in the power of the Spirit, and to collaborate with the Spirit to do the works of Christ. Soul saving is the most creative work in the world. A healed self in Christ is in the position to do the works of Christ, to be a witness as Christ commanded.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

Isa. 53:3-6

Devotion:

BSAF on selected verses from above.

Put-Off/Put-On:

List sins of idolatry that need to be cleansed, sins that you need to ask God for forgiveness: people you need to forgive, areas where you feel guilt and shame, sins of others who offended you, to forgive them and seek forgiveness. Review Section A.4, “Victory Over Sin Worksheet” and Section 9.1, “Cleansing and Purifying the Soul” .

Reference: See [19][Payne1] for further reading.

 

13.7. Healing Presence (2)

Perspective

( Ezek. 36:27 ; Eph. 3:16-17 ) To experience this prayer fulfilled in our lives is to find our true center, the ‘home within’. From this center, we ‘abide’ in Christ and He in us.

Hope

( Matt. 6:14-15 ; Matt. 5:23-24 ; 1 John 1:9 ; Heb. 10:22 ) Barriers that keep us from realizing our ‘true center’ in Christ are our failures to forgive others as well as receiving forgiveness from God for our own sins. One major area is our guilt and shame, and the failure to acquire the virtue of self-acceptance in Christ. The blood of Christ completely wipes out our past, making us fully acceptable in Christ.

( Phil. 3:13-14 ) The extent a person lives out of his diseased and corrupted attitudes and feelings toward the self to that extent he will fail to find and live from his true center. We must die to misconceived attitudes and the illusory self, else we cannot abide in Christ.

( John 14:20 ; Col. 1:27 ) Christ descends to us and into us. He incarnates us. We are indwelt by God Who is above us, before He is within us and beneath us.

( James 4:8 ; Heb. 10:22 ) We look up to God Who is other than me, sovereign over all. Thank God that Christ’s Spirit is within me, saving me, hallowing me, linking me to Him.

Change

( Phil. 2:12-13 ) Practice His Presence within: man and God working together. God will not do what you can do, that is, to choose. At the point you choose, it is God who enables you to do the doing. Passivity is waiting for God to deal with sin when it has been taking care of at the cross. My job now is to unite my will with His and allow righteousness to flow, changing my state of being from the natural to the supernatural.

( 1 Cor. 12:7-11 ) The gifts of the Spirit are the nature of the manifestations of God. By practicing the Presence of Christ, we lay the foundation for understanding and moving of the gifts of the Spirit.

( Matt. 5:23-24 ) Healing gifts of the Spirit may face two big barriers to wholeness: failure to forgive others , and failure to receive forgiveness. Faith, knowledge, love, moral conduct, courage, hope, prayer, all have to do with Christ in us. Forgive and be forgiven, daily cleansing of all slights and resentments keeps our union with Christ intact, and allows the free flow of grace.

( Jer. 17:9-10 ) All kinds of hearts within us: broken, grieved, discouraged, proud, wicked, trembling, double, subtle, perverse, sorrowful, haughty, fretting, heavy, jealous, envious, evil, deceitful, hard, scheming, callous and so on. However, Christ in us radiates through us, making our two minds hallowed, as well as our feelings, wills, intellect, and faculties. He completes us and we become: willing, perfect, tender, soft, pure, upright, clean wise, merry , meek and lowly, honest and good, single, true, compassionate and thankful and so on.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

Col. 2:11-12

Devotion:

Review this worksheet.

Put-Off/Put-On:

List areas in your life which must be dealt with: people , circumstances situations and prepare a failure list. Process Section A.4, “Victory Over Sin Worksheet” . To change is a question of creating new habits in place of the old. Substitute and practice the godly response and, in time, the natural will be translated into the supernatural ( Rom. 8:14-17 ).

13.8. Creative Thinking

Perspective

( Phil. 4:8 ) When great and good symbolic images of God, the cosmos, fatherhood, motherhood, masculine, feminine, and so on are rejected or are simply absent from the mind, lesser images develop to take their place. If you do not delight in higher things, you will most certainly delight in lower things, This is true of a society, a nation, a world, as well as each and every individual. What you think, in time, you will become.

Hope

( Rom. 6:3-6 ) What was done on the Cross washes and cleanses us from our false or perverted former selves. Thus, a sense of being, of well-being comes by dwelling on who and what we are in Christ Jesus. A diseased image in the mind substitutes not only for missing images and symbols of good relationships, but it can also fill in for the lack of an adequate sense of being. This could result in a sense of non-being which requires deep meditation and prayer in order to get back in touch with God to mold our life henceforth: a sense of being.

( 2 Cor. 10:3-5 ; John 15:5-7 ) Developing the proper image and the proper form of the symbolic mind requires baptism in the Holy Spirit, listening prayer, reception of words and pictures that come from God. Also, learning to practice the Presence through exchanging every negative word coming from the world, the flesh and the devil. And replacing these words with words from God Who is always speaking to us to love as He loves, to respond to life in His Spirit.

( Rom. 12:1-2 ) We are to give up the ‘conscious’, rational mind which is turned on trying to analyze the ‘unconscious’, the creative ideas of God revealed to our spirit. Instead, we are to use our rational powers to dwell upon God’s principles and concentrate on putting them into action. We are not to intellectualize, the introspective process, which results in focus on the self and brings forth futility: a practice of the presence of the self.

Change

( Eph. 4:22-32 ; Heb. 10:22 ) In severe cases when one is bound to deep introspection, prayer for the healing of the mind is required. Anoint the forehead with oil, make sign of the cross, lay hands on head, ask Jesus to enter in, to heal and quiet the mind. Visualize with the heart that this is being done, quietly praying. Then ask God for further directions and knowledge of what and how to pray. Ask for wisdom and knowledge via pictures and word. Have person confess his sins of introspection in order to receive the needed cleansing and forgiveness.

( James 1:21 ) Person is to dwell and meditate on appropriate Scriptures dealing with his diseased attitudinal patterns, to look up to God, not within himself, then present his own heart to the heart of the transcendent God.

( 1 Pet. 1:13 ; 1 Pet. 4:1 ) Gird your mind is to control and guard and select good input: that Jesus may be revealed in your spirit. Purpose in your mind to purpose as Jesus Who purposed to do the Father’s will regardless of suffering.

Key word here is ‘fix’ :

1.         Fix mind on selective input.

2.         Fix mind on the will, the will to think and to do God’s way. See also Section 13.3, “Healing of Memories: Forgiveness of Sin” .

3.         Fix mind to purpose, determined to proceed God’s way, not be moved by anything.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

James 1:21

Devotion:

BSAF on Col. 3:1-3 .

Put-Off/Put-On:

Ask yourself the following three questions as you study each of the following verses:

1. What does this verse say to me?

2. What am I doing wrong?

3. What must I change?

•           Gen. 6:5 ; Gen. 11:6 ; Exodus 1:12 ; Exodus 8:12 ;

•           Ps. 1:2 ; Ps. 4:4 ; Ps. 19:14 ; Ps. 38:12 ; Ps. 48:9 ; Ps. 119:59 ; Prov. 4:27 ; Prov. 6:18 ; Prov. 12:5 ;

•           Matt. 10:22 ; Luke 9:62 ; John 15:9 ; Rom. 1:21 ; Rom. 8:6 ; Rom. 12:3 ; Gal. 5:1 ; Gal. 6:9 ; Phil. 1:27 ; Phil. 2:5 ;

•           1 Tim. 4:15 ; James 1:12 ; James 5:11 ; 1 Pet. 2:19 ; 1 Pet. 5:9 ; 2 Pet. 3:17 ; Rev. 3:12 .

Review Section 7.14, “Mind Control ” .

13.9. Mental Obsessions

Perspective

( 1 Chron. 28:9 ; Prov. 6:16 ; 2 Cor. 10:3-5 ; Gal. 5:16 ) To break any habit, it takes a quality decision, an act of the will, which process begins in the mind. The disease of introspection, the mind dwelling upon itself, feeds upon itself and eventually destroys itself. Our mind can be held captive not only by a demonic imagery but by a continuous mental obsession. Constantly analyzing oneself looking inward to find some personal truth or reality, and constantly analyzing whether the truth I found is true or not, one becomes full of doubt.

Hope

( Col. 3:3,5,8-9 ) We are inclined to dwell on some mental or emotional conflict in life, and, in time, we will develop a diseased and distorted mindset. Not accepting my conclusion of self, I become critical of self, and even hatred of self: I become my own god. Scripture tells us to look up to God, ask Him to come in and shine His light into my heart. Then I will receive an objective good: either forgiveness or illumination.

( Col. 1:27 ; Col. 2:10 ; Luke 16:10 ; Phil. 2:12-13 ) To fail to center on Christ within is to ‘walk alongside ourselves’, rather than being and becoming conformed to the image of Christ. The one whose center is the illusionary self (the one whose center is a complex of diseased feelings, attitudes, images and symbols) has nothing to do with the new substantive, outwardly-centered self in Christ.

( Prov. 27:17 ; Acts 17:28 ) To be is to experience life firsthand, to live in the present moment. The one who squanders his present by trying to figure out a more secure or less painful future, lives always in the painful past and uncertain future. To live in the present, of “isness” of “being” is to use oneself by knowing others. Thus, we become sharpened by what “is” and we begin to rejoice in the realities outside of ourselves by allowing God in us to be His fullest through us in the present moment.

Change

( Matt. 22:37-39 ; John 6:63 ) To lift our eyes from ourselves to others is a decision, we can and must make. It is a minute to minute kind of discipline. Man becomes as he obeys. We “become” as we are obedient to the best we know at one level, to the words that come from God on the highest level: that word becomes life.

( John 5:19 ; John 15:5 ) The power to be has to do with the power of being at home “within”: the present moment of being centered, of living serenely and meditating from the true center. To love God is to be drawn up and out of ourselves and into Him. In loving Him, I become incarnate of Him. God descends into us and we are drawn into Him. With Christ, we can say “I love the Father, I do what I see Him do, He has crowned me with glory and honor”. Loving all that “is”, we learn to die daily to the introspective, self-conscious life.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

Rom. 12:1-2

Devotion:

BSAF on Col. 3:1-3 ; Phil. 2:3-4 .

Put-Off/Put-On:

Make note of any excessive and neurotic introspections, of being self absorbed. Allow Prov. 3:5-7 ; Prov. 4:20-27 to guide you. Process Section A.2, “Think And Do List” .

13.10. Breaking Physical Habits

Perspective

( Rom. 4:17 ; 2 Cor. 4:17-18 ) It does not matter if we don’t feel as conquerors or overcomers: the Word says we are, the Word does not lie. The essence of faith is speaking of things not manifested as though they were already an accomplished fact. We are dealing with the invisible, the transcendent, which impacts upon the visible.

Hope

( James 1:21 ) Meditating on the word saves our soul, and ‘save’ means deliverance, safety, preservation, healing, soundness and wholeness. The engrafted word received in bold confidence is able to deliver us from the bondages of our intellect, memory, and will. Instead of being prisoners of self-indulgence, we become prisoners of the thoughts of God.

( Col. 3:1-3 ) Breaking physical habits takes a quality decision, an act of the will that starts with the intellect. Thinking God’s thoughts after Him, restructures the strongholds (scaffolding) of the mind, redirecting the coping mechanisms to respond to life’s uncertain events in obedience to Christ ( 2 Cor. 10:3-5 ).

( Prov. 8:13 ; Prov. 16:6 ; 2 Cor. 7:11 ) Teach yourself to hate evil, do not be indifferent to it. The fear of the Lord is to hate evil because it hurts God. Begin to hate those things that enslave you and offend God. Develop a vehement desire and revenge against evil. ( Ps. 22:3 ) Then practice being in awe, in the Presence of the Lord and His holiness. At the same time, begin to praise God. God inhabits the praises of His people. By praising, you establish Jesus’ Presence and rulership over your life and habits.

Change

( James 1:21 ; Jer. 1:12 ; Heb. 3:1 ) Accept with confidence that God’s word works and will change your habits without panic on your part. Graft word into your spirit by putting word first in your life, and to stand on the word regardless of circumstances and experiences of others. God watches over His word to perform it; thus, allow it to quicken, grow and develop in your spirit.

( Isa. 61:1 ; John 8:32 ; 2 Cor. 3:17 ; Rom. 6:14 ) Through Jesus I am set free from all evil habits, appetites and thoughts. Knowing His truth sets me free because where the Spirit is, there is liberty; therefore, sin shall have no dominion over me.

( Rom. 8:2 ; Phil. 4:13 ; Rom. 8:37 ; Isa. 26:13-14 ; 2 Cor. 2:14 ) Christ infuses His strength into my spirit. This law of the Spirit sets me free from the law of sin and death. Thus, greater is He Who is in me, than he who is in the world. No longer inhibited or condemned by my past, I am more than a conqueror. Thanks be to God Who always causes me to triumph in Christ Jesus.

Work Out Your Salvation (Phil. 2:12-13)

Memory Verse(s):

Rom. 12:1-2

Devotion:

BSAF on Luke 9:23-24 .

Put-Off/Put-On:

Process Section A.6, “Problem Solving Worksheet” . Using this as your source data, complete the following questions:

•           What happened? (describe the problem or situation)

•           What I did? (describe your responses or thoughts)

•           What should I have done? (study this worksheet for ideas)

•           What I now must do (work out Section A.9, “Contingency Plan” , Section A.4, “Victory Over Sin Worksheet” or Section A.2, “Think And Do List” ) to restructure the situation (your thoughts, your speech, and your actions) that would be pleasing to God?

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