Joseph named his firstborn Manasseh … “because God has made me forget all my trouble.” The second son he named Ephraim … “because God has made me fruitful in the land of my suffering.”
(Genesis 41:51–52, NIV)
You can’t change the events of the past, but you can change your perception of them. It’s all in how you choose to look at it. If you can see God at work in it, you’ll come out a better person. Even if you can’t see Him clearly, at least trust Him until you can; He knows what He’s doing. Begin to praise Him that He’s working everything out for your good. (See Romans 8:28.) Before it’s over, you’ll be able to say, “If I hadn’t experienced that, I wouldn’t have received this.” It all begins with a decision to let it go. Paul said, “This one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind” (Philippians 3:13). If he could do it then, by God’s grace, you can too.
Joseph’s family betrayed him and broke his heart. But when he got through it, he realized they’d only positioned him for blessing and prepared him for his destiny. That’s what’s happening with you right now! Every day as he watched his sons, Ephraim and Manasseh, grow up, their names constantly reminded him that God can help you to forget everything you’ve been through and make you stronger and wiser because of it.
 Gass, B. (1998). A Fresh Word For Today : 365 Insights For Daily Living (p. 190). Alachua, FL: Bridge-Logos Publishers.