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January 4 Morning Verse of the Day

Happy Are the Merciful
(5:7)

Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy. (5:7)

The first four beatitudes deal entirely with inner principles, principles of the heart and mind. They are concerned with the way we see ourselves before God. The last four are outward manifestations of those attitudes. Those who in poverty of spirit recognize their need of mercy are led to show mercy to others (v. 7). Those who mourn over their sin are led to purity of heart (v. 8). Those who are meek always seek to make peace (v. 9). And those who hunger and thirst for righteousness are never unwilling to pay the price of being persecuted for righteousness’ sake (v. 10).
The concept of mercy is seen throughout Scripture, from the Fall to the consummation of history at the return of Christ. Mercy is a desperately needed gift of God’s providential and redemptive work on behalf of sinners—and the Lord requires His people to follow His example by extending mercy to others.
To discover its essence we will look at three basic aspects of mercy: its meaning, its source, and its practice.

THE MEANING OF MERCY

For the most part, the days in which Jesus lived and taught were not characterized by mercy. The Jewish religionists themselves were not inclined to show mercy, because mercy is not characteristic of those who are proud, self-righteous, and judgmental. To many—perhaps most—of Jesus’ hearers, showing mercy was considered one of the least of virtues, if it was thought to be a virtue at all. It was in the same category as love—reserved for those who had shown the virtue to you. You loved those who loved you, and you showed mercy to those who showed mercy to you. That attitude was condemned by Jesus later in the Sermon on the Mount. “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor, and hate your enemy’ ” (Matt. 5:43). But such a shallow, selfish kind of love that even the outcast tax-gatherers practiced (v. 46) was not acceptable to the Savior. He said, “Love your enemies, and pray for those who persecute you in order that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven.… For if you love those who love you, what reward have you?… And if you greet your brothers only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same?” (vv. 44–47).
Yet many people have interpreted this beatitude in another way that is just as selfish and humanistic: they maintain that our being merciful causes those around us, especially those to whom we show mercy, to be merciful to us. Mercy given will mean mercy received. For such people, mercy is shown to others purely in an effort toward self-seeking.
The ancient rabbi Gamaliel is quoted in the Talmud as saying, “Whenever thou hast mercy, God will have mercy upon thee, and if thou hast not mercy, neither will God have mercy on thee.” Gamaliel’s idea is right. When God is involved there will be mercy for mercy. “If you forgive men for their transgressions,” Jesus said, “your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions” (Matt. 6:14–15).
But as a platitude applied among men, the principle does not work. One writer sentimentally says, “This is the great truth of life: if people see us care, they will care.” Yet neither Scripture nor experience bears out that idea. God works that way, but the world does not. With God there is always proper reciprocation, and with interest. If we honor God, He will honor us; if we show mercy to others, especially to His children, He will show even more abundant mercy to us. But that is not the world’s way.
A popular Roman philosopher called mercy “the disease of the soul.” It was the supreme sign of weakness. Mercy was a sign that you did not have what it takes to be a real man and especially a real Roman. The Romans glorified manly courage, strict justice, firm discipline, and, above all, absolute power. They looked down on mercy, because mercy to them was weakness, and weakness was despised above all other human limitations.
During much of Roman history, a father had the right of patria opitestas, of deciding whether or not his newborn child would live or die. As the infant was held up for him to see, the father would turn his thumb up if he wanted the child to live, down if he wanted it to die. If his thumb turned down the child was immediately drowned. Citizens had the same life-or-death power over slaves. At any time and for any reason they could kill and bury a slave, with no fear of arrest or reprisal. Husbands could even have their wives put to death on the least provocation. Today abortion reflects the same merciless attitude. A society that despises mercy is a society that glorifies brutality.
The underlying motive of self-concern has characterized men in general and societies in general since the Fall. We see it expressed today in such sayings as, “If you don’t look out for yourself, no one else will.” Such popular proverbs are generally true, because they reflect the basic selfish nature of fallen man. Men are not naturally inclined to repay mercy for mercy.
The best illustration of that fact is the Lord Himself. Jesus Christ was the most merciful human being who ever lived. He reached out to heal the sick, restore the crippled, give sight to the blind, hearing to the deaf, and even life to the dead. He found prostitutes, tax collectors, the debauched and the drunken, and drew them into His circle of love and forgiveness. When the scribes and Pharisees brought the adulteress to Him to see if He would agree to her stoning, He confronted them with their merciless hypocrisy: “He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” When no one stepped forward to condemn her, Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go your way. From now on sin no more” (John 8:7–11). Jesus wept with the sorrowing and gave companionship to the lonely. He took little children into His arms and blessed them. He was merciful to everyone. He was mercy incarnate, just as He was love incarnate.
Yet what was the response to Jesus’ mercy? He shamed the woman’s accusers into inaction, but they did not become merciful. By the time the accounts of John 8 ended, Jesus’ opponents “picked up stones to throw at Him” (v. 59). When the scribes and Pharisees saw Jesus “eating with the sinners and tax-gatherers,” they asked His disciples why their Master associated with such unworthy people (Mark 2:16).
The more Jesus showed mercy, the more He showed up the unmercifulness of the Jewish religious leaders. The more He showed mercy, the more they were determined to put Him out of the way. The ultimate outcome of His mercy was the cross. In Jesus’ crucifixion, two merciless systems—merciless government and merciless religion—united to kill Him. Totalitarian Rome joined intolerant Judaism to destroy the Prince of mercy.
The fifth beatitude does not teach that mercy to men brings mercy from men, but that mercy to men brings mercy from God. If we are merciful to others, God will be merciful to us, whether men are or not. God is the subject of the second clause, just as in the other beatitudes. It is God who gives the kingdom of heaven to the poor in spirit, comfort to those who mourn, the earth to the meek, and satisfaction to those who hunger and thirst for righteousness. Those who are merciful … shall receive mercy from God. God gives the divine blessings to those who obey His divine standards.
Merciful is from eleēmōn, from which we also get eleemosynary, meaning beneficial or charitable. Hebrews 2:17 speaks of Jesus as our “merciful and faithful high priest.” Christ is the supreme example of mercy and the supreme dispenser of mercy. It is from Jesus Christ that both redeeming and sustaining mercy come.
In the Septuagint (the Greek Old Testament) the same term is used to translate the Hebrew hesed, one of the most commonly used words to describe God’s character. It is usually translated as mercy, love, lovingkindness, or steadfast love (Ps. 17:7; 51:1; Isa. 63:7; Jer. 9:24; etc.). The basic meaning is to give help to the afflicted and to rescue the helpless. It is compassion in action.
Jesus is not speaking of detached or powerless sentiment that is unwilling or unable to help those for whom there is sympathy. Nor is He speaking of the false mercy, the feigned pity, that gives help only to salve a guilty conscience or to impress others with its appearance of virtue. And it is not passive, silent concern which, though genuine, is unable to give tangible help. It is genuine compassion expressed in genuine help, selfless concern expressed in selfless deeds.
Jesus says in effect, “The people in My kingdom are not takers but givers, not pretending helpers but practical helpers. They are not condemners but mercy givers.” The selfish, self-satisfied, and self-righteous do not bother to help anyone—unless they think something is in it for them. Sometimes they even justify their lack of love and mercy under the guise of religious duty. Once when the Pharisees and scribes questioned why His disciples did not observe the traditions of the elders, Jesus replied, “Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and ‘He who speaks evil of father or mother, let him be put to death’; but you say, ‘If a man says to his father or his mother, anything of mine you might have been helped by is Corban (that is to say, given to God),’ you no longer permit him to do anything for his father or his mother; thus invalidating the word of God by your tradition which you have handed down” (Mark 7:10–13). In the name of hypocritical religious tradition, compassion toward parents in such a case was actually forbidden.
Mercy is meeting people’s needs. It is not simply feeling compassion but showing compassion, not only sympathizing but giving a helping hand. Mercy is giving food to the hungry, comfort to the bereaved, love to the rejected, forgiveness to the offender, companionship to the lonely. It is therefore one of the loveliest and noblest of all virtues.
In Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice (4.1.180–85) Portia says,

     The quality of mercy is not strain’d;
     It droppeth, as the gentle rain from heaven,
     Upon the place beneath: it is twice bless’d.
     It blesseth him that gives, and him that takes:
     ’Tis mightiest in the mightiest; it becomes
     The throned monarch better than his crown:

MERCY AND FORGIVENESS

A clearer understanding of mercy can be gained by working through some comparisons. Mercy has much in common with forgiveness but is distinct from it. Paul tells us that Jesus “saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit” (Titus 3:5). God’s forgiveness of our sins flows from His mercy. But mercy is bigger than forgiveness, because God is merciful to us even when we do not sin, just as we can be merciful to those who have never done anything against us. God’s mercy does not just forgive our transgressions, but reaches to all our weakness and need.
“The Lord’s lovingkindnesses [mercies, KJV] indeed never cease, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is Thy faithfulness” (Lam. 3:22). God’s mercy to His children never ceases.

MERCY AND LOVE

Forgiveness flows out of mercy, and mercy flows out of love. “But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ” (Eph. 2:4–5). Just as mercy is more than forgiveness, love is more than mercy. Love manifests itself in many ways that do not involve either forgiveness or mercy. Love loves even when there is no wrong to forgive or need to meet. The Father loves the Son and the Son loves the Father, although they both are without sin and without need. They both love the holy angels, although the angels are without sin and need. When we enter heaven we, too, will be without sin or need, yet God’s love for us will, in comparison to eternity, only be just beginning.
Mercy is the physician; love is the friend. Mercy acts because of need; love acts because of affection, whether there is need or not. Mercy is reserved for times of trouble; love is constant. There can be no true mercy apart from love, but there can be true love apart from mercy.

MERCY AND GRACE

Mercy is also related to grace, which flows out of love just as forgiveness flows out of mercy. In each of his three pastoral epistles Paul includes the words “grace, mercy and peace” in his salutations (1 Tim. 1:2; 2 Tim. 1:2; Titus 1:4, KJV). Grace and mercy have the closest possible relationship; yet they are different. Mercy and its related terms all have to do with pain, misery, and distress—with the consequences of sin. Whether because of our individual sins or because of the sinful world in which we live, all of our problems, in the last analysis, are sin problems. It is with those problems that mercy gives help. Grace, on the other hand, deals with sin itself. Mercy deals with the symptoms, grace with the cause. Mercy offers relief from punishment; grace offers pardon for the crime. Mercy eliminates the pain; grace cures the disease.
When the good Samaritan bound up the wounds of the man who had been beaten and robbed, he showed mercy. When he took him to the nearest inn and paid for his lodging until he was well, he showed grace. His mercy relieved the pain; his grace provided for healing.
Mercy relates to the negative; grace relates to the positive. In relation to salvation, mercy says, “No hell,” whereas grace says, “Heaven.” Mercy says, “I pity you”; grace says, “I pardon you.”

MERCY AND JUSTICE

Mercy is also related to justice, although, on the surface, they seem to be incompatible. Justice gives exactly what is deserved; whereas mercy gives less punishment and more help than is deserved. It is difficult, therefore, for some people to understand how God can be both just and merciful at the same time to the same person. If God is completely just, how could He ever not punish sin totally? For Him to be merciful would seem to negate His justice. The truth is that God does not show mercy without punishing sin; and for Him to offer mercy without punishment would negate His justice.
Mercy that ignores sin is false mercy and is no more merciful than it is just. It is that sort of false mercy that Saul showed to King Agag after God had clearly instructed Saul to kill every Amalekite (1 Sam. 15:3, 9). It is that sort of false mercy that David showed to his rebellious and wicked son Absalom when he was young. Because David did not deal with Absalom’s sin, his attitude toward his son was unrighteous sentimentality, neither justice nor mercy—and it served to confirm Absalom in his wickedness.
That sort of false mercy is common in our day. It is thought to be unloving and unkind to hold people responsible for their sins. But that is a cheap grace that is not just and is not merciful, that offers neither punishment nor pardon for sin. And because it merely overlooks sin, it leaves sin; and the one who relies on that sort of mercy is left in his sin. To cancel justice is to cancel mercy. To ignore sin is to deny the truth; and mercy and truth are inseparable, they “are met together” (Ps. 85:10, KJV). In every true act of mercy, someone pays the price. God did, the Good Samaritan did, and so do we. To be merciful is to bear the load for someone else.
To expect to enter the sphere of God’s mercy without repenting from our sin is but wishful thinking. And for the church to offer hope of God’s mercy apart from repentance from sin is to offer false hope through a false gospel. God offers nothing but merciless judgment to those who will not turn from their sin to the Savior. Neither relying on good works nor relying on God’s overlooking sin will bring salvation. Neither trusting in personal goodness nor presuming on God’s goodness will bring entrance into the kingdom. Those who do not come to God on His terms have no claim on His mercy.
God’s mercy is grounded not only in His love but in His justice. It is not grounded in sentiment but in Christ’s atoning blood, which paid the penalty for and cleanses from sin those who believe in Him. Without being punished and removed, even the least of our sin would eternally separate us from God.
The good news of the gospel is that Christ paid the penalty for all sins in order that God might be merciful to all sinners. On the cross Jesus satisfied God’s justice, and when a person trusts in that satisfying sacrifice God opens the floodgates of His mercy. The good news of the gospel is not that God winked at justice, glossed over sin, and compromised righteousness. The good news is that in the shedding of Christ’s blood justice was satisfied, sin was forgiven, righteousness was fulfilled, and mercy was made available. There is never an excuse for sin, but always a remedy.
Mercy, therefore, is more than forgiveness and less than love. It is different from grace and is one with justice. And what is true of God’s mercy should be true of ours.
Mercy led Abraham to rescue his selfish nephew Lot from Chedorlaomer and his allies. Mercy led Joseph to forgive his brothers and to provide them food for their families. Mercy led Moses to plead with the Lord to remove the leprosy with which his sister Miriam had been punished. Mercy led David to spare the life of Saul.
Those who are unmerciful will not receive mercy from God. In one of his imprecatory psalms David says of an unnamed wicked man, “Let the iniquity of his fathers be remembered before the Lord, and do not let the sin of his mother be blotted out. Let them be before the Lord continually, that He may cut off their memory from the earth.” David’s anger was not vengeful or retaliatory. That man and his family did not deserve mercy because they were not themselves merciful. “He did not remember to show lovingkindness, but persecuted the afflicted and needy man, and the despondent in heart, to put them to death” (Ps. 109:14–16).
Paul characterizes godless men as unrighteous, wicked, greedy, evil, envious, murderous, deceitful, malicious, gossiping, slanderous, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, disobedient to parents, without understanding, untrustworthy, and unloving. The climaxing evil of that long list, however, is being unmerciful (Rom. 1:29–31). Mercilessness is the capstone marking those who reject God’s mercy.
“The merciful man does himself good, but the cruel man does himself harm” (Prov. 11:17). The way to happiness is through mercy; the way to misery is through cruelty. The truly merciful person is even kind to animals, whereas the merciless person is cruel to everything. “A righteous man has regard for the life of his beast, but the compassion of the wicked is cruel” (Prov. 12:10).
In His Olivet discourse Jesus warned that those who claim to belong to Him but who have not served and shown compassion on the hungry, the thirsty, the stranger, the naked, the sick, and the imprisoned will not be allowed to enter His kingdom. He will say to them, “Depart from Me, accursed ones, into the eternal fire which has been prepared for the devil and his angels; for I was hungry, and you gave Me nothing to eat; I was thirsty, and you gave Me nothing to drink; I was a stranger, and you did not invite Me in; naked, and you did not clothe Me; sick, and in prison, and you did not visit Me.” When they say, “ ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry,’ … He will answer them, saying, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to Me’ ” (Matt. 25:41–45).
James writes, “Whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles in one point, he has become guilty of all. For He who said, ‘Do not commit adultery,’ also said, ‘Do not commit murder.’ Now if you do not commit adultery, but do commit murder, you have become a transgressor of the law. So speak and so act, as those who are to be judged by the law of liberty. For judgment will be merciless to one who has shown no mercy” (James 2:10–13a).
In the midst of our corrupt, ego-centered, and selfish society that tells us to grab everything we can get, the voice of God tells us to give everything we can give. The true character of mercy is in giving—giving compassion, giving help, giving time, giving forgiveness, giving money, giving ourselves. The children of the King are merciful. Those who are merciless face judgment; but “mercy triumphs over judgment” (James 2:13b).

THE SOURCE OF MERCY

Pure mercy is a gift of God. It is not a natural attribute of man but is a gift that comes with the new birth. We can be merciful in its full sense and with a righteous motive only when we have experienced God’s mercy. Mercy is only for those who through grace and divine power have met the requirements of the first four beatitudes. It is only for those who by the work of the Holy Spirit bow humbly before God in poverty of spirit, who mourn over and turn from their sin, who are meek and submissive to His control, and who hunger and thirst above all else for His righteousness. The way of mercy is the way of humility, repentance, surrender, and holiness.
Balaam continually prostituted his ministry, trying to keep within the letter of God’s will while conspiring with a pagan king against God’s people. He presumptuously prayed, “Let me die the death of the upright, and let my end be like his!” (Num. 23:10). As one Puritan commentator observed, Balaam wanted to die like the righteous, but he did not want to live like the righteous. Many people want God’s mercy but not on God’s terms.
God has both absolute and relative attributes. His absolute attributes—such as love, truth, and holiness—have characterized Him from all eternity. They were characteristic of Him before He created angels, or the world, or man. But His relative attributes-such as mercy, justice, and grace—were not expressed until His creatures came into being. In fact they were not manifest until man, the creature made in His own image, sinned and became separated from his Creator. Apart from sin and evil, mercy, justice, and grace have no meaning.
When man fell, God’s love was extended to His fallen creatures in mercy. And only when they receive His mercy can they reflect His mercy. God is the source of mercy. “For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His lovingkindness [mercy] toward those who fear Him” (Ps. 103:11). It is because we have the resource of God’s mercy that Jesus commanded, “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful” (Luke 6:36).
Donald Barnhouse writes,

When Jesus Christ died on the cross, all the work of God for man’s salvation passed out of the realm of prophecy and became historical fact. God has now had mercy upon us. For anyone to pray, “God have mercy on me” is the equivalent of asking Him to repeat the sacrifice of Christ. All the mercy that God ever will have on man He has already had, when Christ died. That is the totality of mercy. There could not be any more.… The fountain is now opened, and it is flowing, and it continues to flow freely. (Romans [Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1983], 4:4)

We cannot have the blessing apart from the Blesser. We cannot even meet the condition apart from the One who has set the condition. We are blessed by God when we are merciful to others, and we are able to be merciful to others because we have already received salvation’s mercy. And when we share the mercy received, we shall receive mercy even beyond what we already have.
We never sing more truthfully than when we sing, “Mercy there was great and grace was free; pardon there was multiplied to me; there my burdened soul found liberty, at Calvary.”

THE PRACTICE OF MERCY

The most obvious way we can show mercy is through physical acts, as did the good Samaritan. As Jesus specifically commands, we are to feed the hungry, clothe the naked, visit the sick and imprisoned, and give any other practical help that is needed. In serving others in need, we demonstrate a heart of mercy.
It is helpful to note that the way of mercy did not begin with the New Testament. God has always intended for mercy to characterize His people. The Old Testament law taught, “You shall not harden your heart, nor close your hand from your poor brother; but you shall freely open your hand to him, and shall generously lend him sufficient for his need in whatever he lacks” (Deut. 15:7–8). Even in the year of release, when all debts were canceled, Israelites were to give their poor countrymen whatever they needed. They were warned, “Beware, lest there is a base thought in your heart, saying ‘The seventh year, the year of remission, is near,’ and your eye is hostile toward your poor brother, and you give him nothing” (v. 9).
Mercy is also to be shown in our attitudes. Mercy does not hold a grudge, harbor resentment, capitalize on another’s failure or weakness, or publicize another’s sin. On a great table at which he fed countless hundreds of people, Augustine inscribed,

     Whoever thinks that he is able,
     To nibble at the life of absent friends,
     Must know that he’s unworthy of this table.

The vindictive, heartless, indifferent are not subjects of Christ’s kingdom. When they pass need by on the other side, as the priest and the Levite did in the story of the good Samaritan, they show they have passed Christ by.
Mercy is also to be shown spiritually. First, it is shown through pity. Augustine said, “If I weep for the body from which the soul is departed, should I not weep for the soul from which God is departed?” The sensitive Christian will grieve more for lost souls than for lost bodies. Because we have experienced God’s mercy, we are to have great concern for those who have not.
Jesus’ last words from the cross were words of mercy. For His executioners He prayed, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34). To the penitent thief hanging beside Him He said, “Truly I say to you, today you shall be with Me in Paradise” (v. 43). To His mother He said, “ ‘Woman, behold your son!’ Then He said to the disciple [John], ‘Behold, your mother!’ And from that hour the disciple took her into his own household” (John 19:26–27). Like his Master, Stephen prayed for those who were taking his life, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them!” (Acts 7:60).
Second, we are to show spiritual mercy by confrontation. Paul says that, as Christ’s servants, we should gently correct “those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth” (2 Tim. 2:25). We are to be willing to confront others about their sin in order that they might come to God for salvation. When certain teachers were “upsetting whole families, teaching things they should not teach, for the sake of sordid gain,” Paul told Titus to “reprove them severely that they may be sound in the faith” (Titus 1:11, 13). Love and mercy will be severe when that is necessary for the sake of an erring brother and for the sake of Christ’s church. In such cases it is cruel to say nothing and let the harm continue.
As Jude closed his letter with the encouragement to “keep yourselves in the love of God, waiting anxiously for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to eternal life,” he also admonished, “And have mercy on some, who are doubting; save others, snatching them out of the fire; and on some have mercy with fear, hating even the garment polluted by the flesh” (Jude 21–23). Extreme situations require extreme care, but we are to show mercy even to those trapped in the worst systems of apostasy.
Third, we are to show spiritual mercy by praying. The sacrifice of prayer for those without God is an act of mercy. Our mercy can be measured by our prayer for the unsaved and for Christians who are walking in disobedience.
Fourth, we are to show spiritual mercy by proclaiming the saving gospel of Jesus Christ—the most merciful thing we can do.

THE RESULT OF MERCY

Reflecting on the fact that when we are merciful we receive mercy, we see God’s cycle of mercy. God is merciful to us by saving us through Christ; in obedience we are merciful to others; and God in faithfulness gives us even more mercy, pouring out blessing for our needs and withholding severe chastening for our sin.
As in the other beatitudes, the emphatic pronoun autos (they) indicates that only those who are merciful qualify to receive mercy. David sang of the Lord, “With the kind Thou dost show Thyself kind” (2 Sam. 22:26). Speaking of the opposite side of the same truth, James says, “For judgment will be merciless to one who has shown no mercy” (James 2:13). At the end of the disciples’ prayer Jesus explained, “For if you forgive men for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions” (Matt. 6:14–15). Again the emphatic truth is that God will respond with chastening for an unforgiving disciple.
Neither in that passage nor in this beatitude is Jesus speaking of our mercy gaining us salvation. We do not earn salvation by being merciful. We must be saved by God’s mercy before we can truly be merciful. We cannot work our way into heaven even by a lifetime of merciful deeds, any more than by good works of any sort. God does not give mercy for merit; He gives mercy in grace, because it is needed, not because it is earned.
To illustrate the working of God’s mercy Jesus told the parable of a slave who had been graciously forgiven a great debt by the king. The man then went to a fellow slave who owed him a pittance by comparison and demanded that every cent be repaid and had him thrown into prison. When the king heard of the incident, he called the first man to him and said, “ ‘You wicked slave, I forgave you all that debt because you entreated me. Should you not also have had mercy on your fellow slave, even as I had mercy on you?’ And his lord, moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers until he should repay all that was owed him. So shall My heavenly Father also do to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart” (Matt. 18:23–35).
In that parable Jesus gives a picture of God’s saving mercy in relation to forgiving others (vv. 21–22). The first man pleaded with God for mercy and received it. The fact that he, in turn, was unmerciful was so inconsistent with his own salvation that he was chastened until he repented. The Lord will chasten, if need be, to produce repentance in a stubborn child. Mercy to others is a mark of salvation. When we do not show it, we may be disciplined until we do. When we hold back mercy, God restricts His flow of mercy to us, and we forfeit blessing. The presence of chastening and the absence of blessing attend an unmerciful belbeliever.
If we have received from a holy God unlimited mercy that cancels our unpayable debt of sin—we who had no righteousness but were poor in spirit, mourning over our load of sin in beggarly, helpless condition, wretched and doomed, meek before almighty God, hungry and thirsty for a righteousness we did not have and could not attain—it surely follows that we should be merciful to others.

MacArthur, J. F., Jr. (1985–1989). Matthew (Vol. 1, pp. 187–197). Moody Press.


As was indicated earlier, it is impossible to prove that merciful, pure in heart, and peace-making represent a climactic sequence or are the manifestations of a step by step gradually ascending development in the believers’ life. It is conceivable, to be sure, that the relation is as follows: those who have become merciful become conscious of the fact that their mercy is still mingled with sin, and thus all the more strive after purity of heart. Also it is possible that peace-making is mentioned next according to the rule stated by James, namely, that “the wisdom which is from above, is first pure, then peaceable” (3:17). However, as A. Plummer, followed by A. T. Robertson, has stated, the order in which James mentions these two is probably more logical than chronological. Accordingly, since the reason for the sequence in which the fifth to the seventh beatitudes are reported is not clear they will simply be regarded as parallel responses to God’s redeeming grace. First, then, the fifth beatitude: 7. Blessed the merciful, for they shall have mercy shown to them. Mercy is love for those in misery and a forgiving spirit toward the sinner. It embraces both the kindly feeling and the kindly act. We see it exemplified in the parable of The Good Samaritan (Luke 10), and especially in Christ, the merciful Highpriest (Heb. 2:17).
Although it would be unrealistic to deny that, due to God’s loving disposition, remembered and unremembered acts of sympathy and kindness are in evidence all around us, even in the world of the unregenerate (Acts 28:2), the mercy spoken of in this beatitude grows “out of the personal experience of the mercy of God” (Lenski). As such it is a peculiarly Christian virtue, which holds also for the other characteristics mentioned in the beatitudes. All indicate qualities of the citizens of the kingdom. For that matter, it should never be forgotten that while the Romans spoke of four cardinal virtues—wisdom, justice, temperance, and courage—mercy was not among them. And to obtain a balanced view of the semblance of this grace in the world at large it is but fair to balance Acts 28:2 with Prov. 12:10, “The tender mercies of the wicked are cruel.”
It is worthy of note that again and again Scripture exhorts believers to show mercy out of gratitude for the mercy with which they themselves have been treated. The parable of The Unmerciful Servant (Matt. 18:23–25) is a striking example. See also Matt. 25:31–46; Rom. 15:7, 25–27; 2 Cor. 1:3, 4; Eph. 4:32; 5:1; Col. 3:12–14. This mercy must be shown to those who belong to “the household of the faith,” but must not be confined to them (Gal. 6:10). In fact, it must be shown to “all men,” not even excluding those who hate and persecute believers (Matt. 5:44–48). It is immediately apparent that if the implication of the fifth beatitude were put into practice with greater zeal and consistency the preaching of the gospel would be far more effective! What a blessing for mankind this would be!
“For they shall have mercy shown to them.” They, they alone, who exercise mercy can expect to receive from the Lord the reward of mercy, as is evident not only from some of the passages mentioned in the preceding paragraph but also from 2 Sam. 22:26; Matt. 6:14, 15; and James 2:13. When this golden seed is sown an abundant harvest is gathered in (Matt. 7:2; Luke 6:38).

Hendriksen, W., & Kistemaker, S. J. (1953–2001). Exposition of the Gospel According to Matthew (Vol. 9, pp. 275–276). Baker Book House.


Ver. 7. The merciful.—

Christian mercy:—
I. WHAT IS CHRISTIAN MERCY? 1. Its nature. 2. Its objects. 3. Its author. 4. Its design.
II. HOW IS IT EXEMPLIFIED? 1. In the forgiveness of enemies. 2. In various acts of kindness. 3. In deep concern and effort for the spread of the gospel.
III. WHAT IS THE BLESSING WHICH CHRISTIAN MERCY INSURES? 1. He will have mercy shown him from the subjects of his bounty. 2. A merciful Providence will attend the merciful Christian. 3. Mercy shall be shown him at the last day.
IV. A FEW OBSERVATIONS TO EXCITE YOU TO CHERISH A MERCIFUL DISPOSITION. 1. The more you abound in mercy, the more you are conformed to the precepts of the Scriptures. 2. The more you abound in mercy, the more will you resemble God. 3. The more we abound in mercy, the more eminently we appear to possess the spirit of Christ. (J. Jordan.)

The blessing of mercifulness:—
I. What is the CHARACTER of this mercifulness? It is a quality exercised between man and man, independent of written law, and which is not so much certain acts of forgiveness as a temper of the soul. It is a temper which makes him who has it not so much sorry that he has been injured, but sorry that the injurer should have the heart to do the wrong. All memory of wrong fades from him.
II. THE REWARD. Christ did not mean a man to be merciful for the sake of obtaining mercy, but as a necessary result he would obtain it. Mercy is the reward of mercy. (S. A. Brooke.)

The sin of cruelty to animals:—1. It is inconsistent with any just idea of the place assigned to man upon earth, and of the power granted to him over the other creatures, who occupy the same scene with himself. 2. It is out of harmony with the feelings and graces of character which ought to belong to all who profess the Christian faith. 3. It has a manifest tendency to pervert the entire moral nature of him who indulges it. 4. It is seen to be odious when we consider that the creatures against whom it is directed are those to whom man is most indebted for valuable service. (A. Goldie.) I. What is implied in being merciful, and to whom does this character properly belong? II. What is the blessedness promised? III. The obligation we are under to be merciful. (Joseph Benson.) The very first grace that grows, like a beautiful spring flower, on the ground of righteousness, is the grace of mercy, or compassion.
I. WHAT IS MERCY, or compassion? It is sorrow at the suffering of a fellow-creature, rational or irrational; and, along with that sorrow, an earnest desire, if possible, to relieve it. It does not ask the question, “Is the sufferer of my nation, sect, party, or Church; does the man deserve relief?” It simply asks the question, “Does he suffer?” We are to go farther and to pity the sufferer as a sinner, and to show mercy to him simply because he is a sinner. This mercy is frequently enjoined in Holy Scripture, and always represented as the characteristic of the loftiest nature. This grace is obligatory upon all. In order to exercise it, let us think of the mercy we have received.
II. THE BENEDICTION pronounced upon it. Conscious joy. Special benedictions (Isa. 58:6). Blessed because they are God-like. “They shall obtain mercy”—from others in this world, and from God, even in this world, and at “that day.” (Dr. J. Cumming.) Let me exhort you to deeds of mercy, let your fingers drop with the myrrh of liberality, sow your golden seed, and ye shall reap an abundant harvest. I. In Christ: labour that your persons may be in Christ. 1. The best works not springing from faith are lost. 2. That fruit is most sweet and genuine which is brought forth in the Vine (John 15:14). 3. Out of Christ all our alms-deeds are but the fruit of the wild olive; they are not good works, but dead works. II. For Christ: for His sake, that you may testify your love to Him. Love mellows and ripens our alms-deeds, it makes them a precious perfume to God. III. All works of mercy are to be done in humility. As the silkworm, while she weaves her curious works hides herself within the silk, and is not seen, so we should hide ourselves from pride and vainglory. (Thomas Watson.) I. Are we wanting in this grace of mercy? Let us compare ourselves with God. God’s mercy is changeless, ours is fitful. God’s mercy is provident and thoughtful, ours capricious and thoughtless. II. How may we hope to have this mercy supplied to us? In the redemption of the fallen world by the Son of God. This thoughtful, universal, and provident mercy is unblurred by single line. III. Are we merciful in judgment of others? In our speech? Do we not take pleasure in sharp criticism? Are we merciful in consideration for others? Are we merciful employers? (Dr. Chalmers Smith.) The exercise of mercy chiefly consists of two things. I. To prevent any evil or mischief which we apprehend our neighbour to be in. (1) By abstaining from all acts of cruelty or unmercifulness towards anybody or creature; (2) By using our dominion or authority over others with tenderness and moderation; (3) By considering our neighbour’s case as our own. II. To endeavour to deliver others from difficulties, or at least to ease others of their burdens. (1) By warning our neighbour; (2) By friendly admonition. Thus preventing our neighbour falling into evil or mischief; (3) To comfort others in sickness, sorrow, reproach, or disgrace; (4) To disperse slanders and aspersions; (5) To help the needy, feed the hungry, clothe the naked, and take care of the poor. (Bishop Ofspring Blackall, D.D.)
Mercifulness a quality of the entire man.—Mercifulness, then, is a quality of the whole nature; a certain soft, sweet, tender, gentle, gracious atmosphere in which the whole man lives and breathes; in which he continually acts toward injury and wrong; and under its warm and sunny rays injury and wrong melt away day by day, like icebergs that come floating down into the tropical stream. And those are blest who have it. They live in soft sunshine of their own making, and in it all the simple charities of life, which are like the common flowers that adorn and make sweet the woods and fields, flourish until the whole world rejoices in the life of those who live by mercy. And their speech is delightful as the songs of birds, and their daily acts like the soft murmur of such streams as gently flow through meadows. In all this inward beauty of soul they are blest indeed, for mercy blesses him who gives it. (S. A. Brooke.)

Exell, J. S. (1952). The Biblical Illustrator: Matthew (pp. 52–53). Baker Book House.

Steve’s Devotional – Forgiven & Forgotten | Key Life

Do you try to ignore it? Bury it? Would you like to know how to handle it for good, how to find true and lasting forgiveness?

Let me give you an important principle for believers: Definition is a prerequisite to recovery. In other words, if you can define a problem, you can usually deal with it. Vague anxiety without definition of its source will simply wipe you out. It’s important to define the problem before you do anything else. Let’s define forgiveness based on Hebrews 10:1-18. Is true forgiveness even possible?

The Requirement for Forgiveness

To receive forgiveness, we must be sanctified, set apart to God. A lot of people try to make Christian principles work before they become Christians. When Jesus spoke to his disciples, one provision always followed upon the heels of his counsel: You must be a disciple of Jesus in order to reap the benefits of discipleship.

When Jesus said, “My peace I give to you,” “These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you,” “Though he die, yet shall he live” or “I am with you always,” he was only talking to a certain kind of person. Those are not universal statements applicable to everyone; they are meant only for his everlasting family. So, a word of caution: Forgiveness is only for those who have gone to the only One who can forgive, Jesus Christ.

The Reality of Forgiveness

The forgiveness Christ offers is the real thing; it’s not a mere shadow or a copy. Let me illustrate what I mean. If I am really thirsty, one of the most arresting pictures I can see is a picture of a glass of cold water. The picture may be beautiful, it may make me think or daydream about a glass of water, but it is not a real glass of cold water. No matter how nice or realistic the picture, it is just that, a picture. In the same way, Christ’s forgiveness really makes you clean and free. You are forgiven. That is reality.

The Remedy Toward Forgiveness

Forgiveness doesn’t come cheap; it never has and it never will. If I punch you in the nose and you decide to forgive me, that forgiveness costs something—a hurting, damaged nose. There’s a sense in which all forgiveness is vicarious, substitutionary, one for another. Forgiveness always costs somebody something. In the case of the forgiveness offered by God, it cost him his Son. Christ took your place. His death means that you don’t have to die. Remember the cost.

The Reliability of Forgiveness

“But when Christ had offered for all time a single sacrifice for sins, he sat down at the right hand of God” (Hebrews 10:12). Forgiveness is a fact because the One in authority, even Jesus Christ, says it is a fact. No data, no situation, no tragedy, no governmental decree, no military effort…nothing can ever change it.

There was once a doctor in a mining town who had many patients who simply couldn’t pay their bills. When they couldn’t pay, the doctor wrote “Canceled” beside their debts in his books. Years later, when the physician died, his widow tried to collect on those debts by taking the past debtors to court. But the court replied, “If your husband said that their debt is canceled, it is canceled and can never be claimed again.” Likewise, the King who rules has declared you “Forgiven.” No one can change that fact.

The Reach of Forgiveness

The reach of forgiveness is vast, “once for all” (verse 10). Jesus forgave every sin you have ever committed, every sin you are committing, and every sin you will ever commit. How about that? Corrie ten Boom described it, “Jesus takes your sin, past, present and future, dumps it in the ocean and puts up a sign that reads ‘No Fishing.’” That is so true. Christ has given forgiveness as far into the future as our lives will reach. And he has given forgiveness into the past as far back as our lives have been lived. We really are free.

I know what you’re thinking: Well, does that mean I can do anything I want and I’m already forgiven? Yes, that’s what it means. In that case, I’m going out right now to really sin, since it’s forgiven anyway. You may do that, but if you do, you haven’t understood the motivation of love. I don’t try to be obedient because he will zap me if I’m not. I try to be obedient because he loved me when I wasn’t. I’m constrained by his love, not by his judgment.

The Reminder of Forgiveness

In Hebrews 10:17 God says, “I will remember their sins and their lawless deeds no more.”

There was a bishop who was a confessor for a nun. One day the nun told him that Christ had revealed himself to her in person. The bishop, understandably doubtful about her vision, said to her, “I have some instructions for you. The next time Christ appears to you, I want you to ask him about the sins of the archbishop.” The nun said, “Of course.”

So the next time, in a period of confession, the bishop said to the nun, “Well, did you ask Christ about the sins of the archbishop?” She said, “Yes, I did.” He replied, “What did he say?” The nun answered, “He said, ‘I’ve forgotten.’”

The living sacrifice of Jesus Christ has not only wiped your slate clean…it has broken your slate into a million pieces across crossbeams. “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1). God has forgiven your sin on the cross. Christ’s death reminds us.

You may be on a guilt trip. I want you to think for a moment about the most horrible sin you have ever committed. Think about that which if I revealed it to your friends and family, would make you want to crawl into a hole in the ground. It may be a sin you’ve hidden for years, the one thing that nobody knows and about which you’re never going to tell anyone because you’re so ashamed.

Now hold it, in all of its blackness, before the light of Christ. Remember God’s Word in Hebrews 10. He says this to you: “You remember your forgiveness and I’ll forget your sin. You are free!” That’s real. That’s secure. That’s yours—forever.

Time to Draw Away

Read Psalm 103 & Ephesians 2:1-7

Although you know you’re forgiven in Christ, you may still feel guilty. During those times, you may need a reminder of the forgiveness that’s already yours in him. Write down and memorize Romans 8:1, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Allow it to sink in deep…as deep as God’s love for you. You really are free of your sin—past, present and future. Nothing is held against you anymore. Not one single sin.

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Yes, We Forgive Our Enemies | Christian Heritage News

 By Dr. R. Scott Clark – Posted at The Heidelblog:It is well known that, at Charlie Kirk’s memorial, his widow, Erika, forgave the man who is charged with his murder. This has reignited a debate that I first became aware of perhaps 15 years ago. There are two sides to this discussion: 1) forgiveness is conditioned upon the penitence of the sinner, and 2) forgiveness is unconditional. Here I am arguing for the latter.

In defense of the first approach, one writer argues,

First of all, forgiveness in the Bible is only to be granted to a brother or sister in Christ after there is evidence of repentance. “Be on your guard! If your brother or sister sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times a day, and returns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ forgive him (Luke 17:3-4).” If this is true of a brother or sister in Christ, how much more of an unbeliever. Without repentance, there can be no forgiveness.

When we pray in the Lord’s prayer that God forgive us as we forgive our debtors, Christ, no doubt, is assuming repentance on the part of those who have sinned against us. Even so as we repent before God of the sins we have committed against Him.

This approach seems to know a priori (i.e., before we have examined the text of Scripture) how things must come out, and it assumes things it does not prove. “Christ, no doubt is assuming repentance…” begs the question. It is true that we are to forgive those who ask for forgiveness, but it does not follow that, therefore, we only forgive those who ask for forgiveness.

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I Forgive Him | IFA

“I forgive him.”

~ Erika Kirk, September 21, 2025

Imbued with eternal weightiness, those three little words spoken that day released seismic pulses through the unseen realms with unstoppable force. Those three little words commanded both angelic applause and demonic squeals as the sound presented to all of creation the magnificent currency that cripples one kingdom and magnifies the other Kingdom. Forgiveness.

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My first reaction to Erika forgiving her husband’s killer was unexpected: I want to see what is happening in the invisible domain right now.

I was reminded of the time when enemy armies surrounded the prophet Elisha and his servant.  Undoubtedly about to be captured, Elisha prayed for his terrified attendant:

O Lord, I pray, open his eyes so he may see.

~ II Kings 6:17

In that moment, the Lord opened the servant’s eyes, and behold, he saw the hills filled with uncountable chariots of fire, positioned to do the Lord’s bidding to vanquish the enemy.  When those three little words resounded through the rulers of darkness’ murky lairs, I wanted to see their recoil and hear their shrieks.  Even more, I wanted to see the holy battalions emerge to illuminate this present darkness and shower the earth with the Light of heaven’s glory.

Forgiveness is love’s perpetual fire, burning away the infection of wrath and offense. Forgiveness is the currency of Light, purchasing the freedom of both victim and offender.

For when you forgive your neighbor, you cleanse your own soul of enmity, and thus you make room for God’s mercy to dwell in you.

~ Saint John Chrysostom (Homily on Matthew 19, c. 390 AD)

Those three little words spoken that day offer the most divine invitation to every human heart. Whether that heart be warmed and tender or iced and impenetrable, its deepest yearning is the same: Shalom. One of the most glorious words in all of scripture, shalom means to enjoy wholeness and well-being, peace with one another, harmony with creation, and deep communion with God.

The heart that is pure and free from disturbance is the one that finds its rest in God, for it is there that true shalom resides, in the love that casts out all fear.

~ Saint Gregory of Nyssa (c. 335-395 AD)

Deficiency in forgiveness, or better said, resistance to forgive, cultivates a disturbance within the heart that breeds disruption of shalom in the body, mind, and soul.  Let the fans in the cheap seats bicker over whether Erika meant it or not.  The fact is, she did it.

And in her act of obedience, she quoted what Jesus said from the cross he died upon:  Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.  In doing so, the world beheld what scripture calls the foolishness of our message:

For the word of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.

~ I Corinthians 1:18

And therein lies the great and terrible divide in our country at present: Those who are being saved and those who are perishing. While I expected the caustic, calloused comments coming from the usual sources, I did not expect to see so many pastors wholly unable to discern the times and speak life into the midst of this unimaginable death.

If nothing else, friend and foe alike should strive to comprehend and communicate the life-giving power of forgiveness, or otherwise risk the personal peril of a crippled heart.

What is Forgiveness?

When Erika said, I forgive him, what was practically and spiritually accomplished? Are we to believe her grief was assuaged or her trauma quelled?  Certainly not.  Should we assume that because she forgave, the pain and memory of this demonic murder would quickly be erased? Absolutely no.

Our grief, trauma, pain, and memories can all be brought before The Lord, personally and intimately.  As we place them on the altar as an offering and invite His healing virtue to flow into our wounds, the restoration of shalom can begin. And while forgiveness plays a vital role in this process, there is another facet Erika invoked with those three little words.

Both the biblical Hebrew word for forgiveness, nasa, and the Greek word aphiemi convey vibrant imagery, meaning to carry off, to lift, bear up, or take away.  The Old Testament contains a physical depiction of this imagery when the people of ancient Israel sought forgiveness. The priest would lay his hands upon a goat, effectuating a symbolic representation that the people’s sins were transferred to the goat.  The goat was then set free as the people watched their sin be carried away. (This is where we get the term, scapegoat.)

When John the Baptist saw Jesus for the first time, he exclaimed:

Behold, the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world!

~ John 1:29

Takes Away

When Jesus taught us how to pray, forgiveness is the only portion of the prayer He explains afterward.

Forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions

~ Matthew 6:12, 14-15

When Erika publicly confessed, I forgive him, she released the shooter from the relational consequence of his sin against her.  In effect, any emotional or spiritual tie with the shooter was taken away.  And while this act of forgiveness allows Shalom to begin restoring her heart, do not confuse her forgiveness with justice.

Forgiveness does not ignore justice, but rather transcends it within the individual.  However, civil government is still endowed with the authority to punish evildoers.  In the Book of Romans, chapter 13 explains that those who do right have nothing to fear.  But those who do wrong will incur the wrath of punishment as wielded by the state. Erika can now look forward to justice being served while also pursuing healing in her heart.

This is the Christian response of forgiveness.

. . .

During one of my trips to Rwanda, I met Pastor Francis.  I can still hear his Popeye-like laugh as I nervously rode on the back of his rickety motorcycle.  Late in our trip, he confided to me how his mother, sisters, and brother were slaughtered in the 1994 genocide.  We drove past the home, and he pointed to where the bodies fell.  His mother lay in the front yard, nearly decapitated.

As the genocide raged on, Francis slowly snuck his way to the border, joined the rebel forces, and fought valiantly to take back the capital.  For his service, he was appointed warden of one of the largest prisons in the country.

One day, a prisoner in an orange jumpsuit fell at Francis’s feet.  Clutching his legs and weeping, he confessed, “Jesus has forgiven my sins and changed my heart.”  Francis asked, “Why do you tell this to me?”

“I am the one who murdered your mother.”

Francis became weak and dizzy as the ravenous spectrum of years of walled-up emotions crashed through his body at once.  Reaching for his gun, he collapsed.

While in the hospital, he had a vision of his mother.  He described to me how she was surrounded by beautiful, glorious light. As she held Jesus’ hand, he heard, “I am alright, son.  Please, you must go and forgive that man.”

After weeks recovering from his breakdown, he returned to his post.  He found the prisoner, who once again fell prostrate before him.  “I know I am going to heaven because Jesus forgives me.  But while I am on the earth, please, sir, you must forgive me for my crime against you.”

Francis said three little words.

When the prisoners and officers saw this unimaginable act of forgiveness as the warden and prisoner embraced, revival broke out in that prison.  Guards and inmates alike repented of their sins, forgave one another, and shalom began to spread in this least likely of places.

Francis and his newly forgiven friend were permitted to travel to many prisons throughout Rwanda, sharing their story. And everywhere they went, revival broke out!  This unprecedented outpouring of grace in the prisons garnered the attention of government officials, and the National Reconciliation Movement in Rwanda was born.

Throughout Rwanda, the perpetrators of genocide found their victims’ families, confessed to the survivors, and worked to serve and restore them.  Amidst the million graves, shalom began to heal hearts and restore villages.  Francis went on to get a seminary degree and continues to serve churches throughout the country today.

O, may we all pray, “Open our eyes” to see what is happening in the invisible realms since Erika forgave her husband’s murderer that day.

Three little words.

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Keith Guinta blogs at www.winepatch.org. He is a husband and father, and he has been a worship leader and church planter. Photo Credit: Official White House Photo by Daniel Torok.

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Why Forgiveness Is Central to the Christian Life | ChurchLeaders

forgiveness in Christianity

From the Lord’s Prayer to the cross at Calvary, few themes run as deeply through our faith as forgiveness. Forgiveness is not presented as an optional practice but as the heart of life with God. It shapes how believers relate to one another, how they understand salvation, and how they grow in spiritual maturity. To neglect forgiveness is to miss something central to the gospel itself. In a world marked by resentment, brokenness, and cycles of retaliation, forgiveness in Christianity stands as both a challenge and a gift.

The Meaning of Forgiveness in Christianity

At its core, forgiveness in Christianity is rooted in God’s character. The Bible portrays God as merciful, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love. This is not abstract theology; it becomes concrete in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. On the cross, Jesus bore humanity’s sins and prayed for those who crucified him: “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” That prayer reveals the essence of forgiveness—not denying the wrong, but releasing the debt and opening the door to reconciliation.

For Christians, forgiveness is not simply a moral ideal but a response to God’s grace. Believers are forgiven not because they deserve it, but because of Christ’s sacrifice. That experience of grace becomes the foundation for extending forgiveness to others. The New Testament makes this connection repeatedly, reminding the church that those who have received mercy must also show mercy.

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Forgiveness in Christianity does not mean pretending harm never happened or excusing injustice. Instead, it acknowledges wrongdoing while refusing to let it define the relationship. It frees both the offended and the offender from the prison of bitterness, creating space for healing and transformation.

Why Forgiveness is Essential for Community

Christian life is never lived in isolation. The church is called to be a community where people worship, serve, and grow together. But wherever people gather, conflicts and disappointments arise. Without forgiveness, communities fracture under the weight of accumulated grievances. With forgiveness, they become places of resilience and grace.

Practicing forgiveness in community also makes the gospel visible. When outsiders see believers extending grace to one another, even after failure or betrayal, they witness a reflection of Christ’s love. In this way, forgiveness is not only for the health of the church but also for its witness to the world. A forgiving community demonstrates that reconciliation is possible and that love is stronger than division.

Forgiveness also creates space for accountability. Because forgiveness acknowledges wrongdoing, it allows communities to confront sin without being consumed by it. This balance of truth and grace fosters growth and maturity rather than denial or avoidance.

The Personal Transformation of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not only about restoring relationships; it is also about shaping the heart of the one who forgives. Carrying bitterness or resentment consumes energy and corrodes the soul. Forgiveness, while difficult, releases that burden. It allows the forgiver to move forward in freedom rather than remain chained to the past.

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In Christian spirituality, forgiveness is a practice that draws believers closer to Christ. To forgive as Christ forgave is to participate in his way of life. It requires humility, patience, and dependence on the Holy Spirit. In this sense, forgiveness is not a one-time act but a discipline, cultivated through prayer and reflection. Over time, it transforms character, making believers more like the Savior they follow.

Forgiveness also addresses the deep need for healing. Wounds left unaddressed can fester into anger or despair. While forgiveness does not erase pain, it opens the possibility of peace. It allows God’s grace to touch places of brokenness and to bring restoration where bitterness once reigned.

Challenges and Misconceptions About Forgiveness

Despite its central role, forgiveness in Christianity is often misunderstood. Some believe forgiveness means forgetting the harm or allowing injustice to continue. Others assume it must always lead to full reconciliation. While reconciliation is a goal, it may not always be possible, especially in cases of ongoing abuse or danger. Forgiveness does not require putting oneself in harm’s way but does involve releasing the desire for revenge.

Another challenge is the difficulty of the process. Forgiveness can be immediate in some cases, but in others it may unfold slowly. Honest lament, grieving losses, and naming the wrong are all part of the journey. Forgiveness requires courage and perseverance, not superficial words.

Pastors and leaders play an important role in helping congregations understand these distinctions. By teaching and modeling forgiveness as a process of grace, they can prevent misunderstandings that lead to guilt or further harm.

Forgiveness in Christianity

Forgiveness in Christianity is not a side issue—it is central to what it means to follow Jesus. Rooted in God’s mercy, it shapes how believers live in community, how they grow personally, and how they witness to the world. While forgiveness is challenging, it is also liberating. It releases the hold of bitterness, creates space for healing, and reflects the love of Christ. To forgive is to live in the rhythm of grace, continually receiving from God and extending that same mercy to others. In a culture that often clings to resentment, the Christian call to forgiveness offers a radical alternative: a life marked by freedom, peace, and love.

August 11 Morning Verse of the Day

  1. “Who forgiveth all thine iniquities.” Here David begins his list of blessings received, which he rehearses as themes and arguments for praise. He selects a few of the choicest pearls from the casket of divine love, threads them on the string of memory, and hangs them about the neck of gratitude. Pardoned sin is, in our experience, one of the choicest boons of grace, one of the earliest gifts of mercy,—in fact, the needful preparation for enjoying all that follows it. Till iniquity is forgiven, healing, redemption, and satisfaction are unknown blessings. Forgiveness is first in the order of our spiritual experience, and in some respects first in value. The pardon granted is a present one—forgiveth; it is continual, for he still forgiveth; it is divine, for God gives it; it is far reaching, for it removes all our sins; it takes in omissions as well as commissions, for both of these are in-equities; and it is most effectual, for it is as real as the healing, and the rest of the mercies with which it is placed. “Who healeth all thy diseases.” When the cause is gone, namely, iniquity, the effect ceases. Sicknesses of body and soul came into the world by sin, and as sin is eradicated, diseases bodily, mental, and spiritual will vanish, till “the inhabitant shall no more say, I am sick.” Many-sided is the character of our heavenly Father, for, having forgiven as a judge, he then cures as a physician. He is all things to us, as our needs call for him, and our infirmities do but reveal him in new characters.
    “In him is only good,
    In me is only ill,
    My ill but draws his goodness forth,
    And me he loveth still.”
    God gives efficacy to medicine for the body, and his grace sanctifies the soul. Spiritually we are daily under his care, and he visits us, as the surgeon does his patient; healing still (for that is the exact word) each malady as it arises. No disease of our soul baffles his skill, he goes on healing all, and he will do so till the last trace of taint has gone from our nature. The two alls of this verse are further reasons for all that is within us praising the Lord.
    The two blessings of this verse the Psalmist was personally enjoying, he sang not of others but of himself, or rather of his Lord, who was daily forgiving and healing him. He must have known that it was so, or he could not have sung of it. He had no doubt about it, he felt in his soul that it was so, and, therefore, he bade his pardoned and restored soul bless the Lord with all its might.

Spurgeon, C. H. (n.d.). The treasury of David: Psalms 88-110 (Vol. 4, pp. 276–277). Marshall Brothers.


Ver. 3. Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases.—Forgiveness and healing:—
I. FORGIVENESS AND HEALING ARE MEN’S GREATEST NEEDS.

  1. Because without them there can be no upward spiritual progress. Man’s course is downward until he is divinely forgiven and healed. The accumulating power of sin.
  2. Because without them there can be no truly happy service for God.
  3. Because without them, existence itself must ultimately become intolerable.
    II. FORGIVENESS AND HEALING ARE RECEIVED FROM GOD.
  4. He only has the right to forgive and heal.
  5. He only has the power.
  6. With God is the disposition to put forth His power and assert His right to forgive and heal.
    III. FORGIVENESS AND HEALING ARE, IN THE KINGDOM OF GRACE, INSEPARABLY CONNECTED. Whom God forgives He heals (1 John 1:9).
    IV. FORGIVENESS AND HEALING, WHEN POSSESSED, INSPIRE DEEPEST GRATITUDE TO THEIR AUTHOR. (W. Smith.)
    The pardon of sin:—
    First, we are blessed with the pardon of sin, and then we bless God for the pardon of sin.
    I. Forgiveness is A PRIMARY BLESSING.
  7. We never enjoy a mercy as a mercy from God till we receive the forgiveness of sins.
  8. There are many mercies which are not given at all, and cannot be given, until first of all the pardon of sin has been bestowed. The application of the blood of sprinkling must be felt, the cleansing power of the atonement must be known, or the rest of the blessings of the covenant will never reach us.
  9. And well may the Lord place this mercy first, because when it comes it ensures all the rest. The day-dawn is always followed by the clearer light.
  10. The pardon of sin comes first, that it may be seen to be an act of pure grace. If any other blessing had preceded it, our legal spirits would have dreamed of merit and fitness: if any attainment had been reached by us before the forgiveness of sins was given, we might have been tempted to glory in self; but now we perceive that God forgives our sins before He heals our moral diseases, and therefore there is no room for pride to set her foot upon.
    II. Forgiveness is A PRESENT BLESSING.
  11. This privilege the believer has actually obtained. As many as have looked to Christ upon the cross are now justified by faith, and have peace with God. This is a matter of present fact, and not of mere hope.
  12. This present mercy is perpetually bestowed—He still forgiveth our iniquity; there is perpetuity in it. At this very moment I may be mourning my sin, but God is forgiving it. Even in the holiest deeds we do there is still sin, but even then God is still forgiving.
  13. This mercy of pardon is knowingly received. Nobody ever sings over uncertain blessings.
  14. This present blessing is immediately efficient, for it secures us a present right to all that is involved in being pardoned. Then seek it at once.
    III. Forgiveness is A PERSONAL BLESSING. “Who forgiveth all thine iniquities.” Our Lord is a blessed God to forgive anybody, but that He should forgive me is the greatest feat of His mercy. A good brother wrote me the other day, “Mercy had reached its zenith when it saved me.” He thought so of himself, and we may each one think the same of his own case. “But may we know this personally?” saith one. I answer, “Yes.”
  15. Some of us know that God has forgiven us, because we have the character which He describes as being forgiven. In repentance, in confession of sin, in forsaking sin, and in faith in our Lord Jesus, we have the marks of pardoned sinners, and these marks are apparent in our souls.
  16. Moreover, if you have any doubt about whether the Lord forgives you now, it will be well for you to make sure that you accept His way of salvation. It is by faith in His dear Son.
  17. We know that we are at this moment forgiven, because we at this moment give to the Lord Jesus Christ that look which brings forgiveness.
    IV. Forgiveness is A PERFECT BLESSING. “Who forgiveth all thine iniquities.” He does not remove the great ones, and leave the little ones to rankle; not the little ones, and leave one great black one to devour us, but “all” of them He covers and annihilates with the effectual atonement made by His dear Son. Now, I want you to obtain this pardon as a complete thing. Do not rest till you have it: you will never know true peace of mind until it is yours.
    V. Forgiveness is A PRICELESS BLESSING. Though it could not be purchased by a life of holiness or by an eternity of woe, forgiveness has been procured. This pardon which is freely preached to-day to all who believe in Jesus hath been purchased, and there is He that procured it, sitting at the right hand of God the Father, a man like unto ourselves, but yet equal with the ever-blessed One. (C. H. Spurgeon.)
    The disease of sin, and its remedy:—
    I. WHY SIN IS CALLED A DISEASE.
  18. As it destroys the moral beauty of the creature (Gen. 1:31; Gen. 6:5; Ps. 38:7; Lam. 4:1).
  19. As it excites pain (Ps. 51:8; Acts 2:37; 1 Cor. 15:56).
  20. As it disables from duty (Isa. 1:5; Rom. 7:19).
  21. As it deprives men of sound reason (Isa. 5:20).
  22. As it leads to death (Rom. 6:1).
    II. THE VARIETY OF SINFUL DISEASES TO WHICH WE ARE SUBJECT (Mark 7:21–23; Rom. 1:29; Gal. 5:19).
    III. THE REMEDY BY WHICH GOD HEALS THESE DISEASES.
  23. His pardoning mercy through the redemption of Christ (Isa. 53:5; Rom. 3:23).
  24. The sanctifying influences of grace (Ezek. 36:25; Heb. 10:16).
  25. The means of grace (Eph. 4:11–13).
  26. The resurrection of the body (1 Thess. 4:16).
  27. The case of an ignorant, insensible sinner is very deplorable.
  28. The case of a real Christian is very hopeful.
    (1) His sinful disease is radically healed.
    (2) The completion of his cure is certain.
  29. The glory of Christ, as the Physician of souls, is great indeed. (The Study.)
    Forgiving mercy:—
    I. FORGIVENESS IS THE CROWN OF GOD’S BENEFITS (vers. 2, 3). Think of all God’s common daily mercies, and all God’s special care and blessing, and then show why, in view of this life and the next, His forgiving seems to be the best blessing of all.
    II. FORGIVENESS IS THE FIRST OF MANY NEW BENEFITS (vers. 4, 5). When God forgives, He follows on to give temporal blessings. His providences wait on His mercies. Illustrate in Job, and in David.
    III. FORGIVENESS TAKES EVEN THE REMEMBRANCE OF SIN AWAY. See figures in (vers. 11, 12, 13). They help us to realize how complete God’s forgiveness is. He remembers our sins no more against us for ever. Show how true this is of the redemption that is in Christ Jesus. Then we may well be happy in our forgiving, merciful God, and sing psalms of praise to Him. Only let us always remember that God’s forgiving us is made to depend on our forgiving others. (Robert Tuck, B.A.)
    The great Physician:—
    I. DISEASE ITSELF AFFORDS US ONE OF OUR RICHEST LUXURIES. It is impossible to describe, to one who has not known the joy of a timely release from the fierceness of disease, the exquisite enjoyments of such an hour. And in this we see the goodness of God. “Sorrow may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.” There may remain still great weakness, and much, that in other circumstances, would be called distress; but this is all forgotten amid the luxury of a temporary release, and a hope still better.
    II. WE SEE DIVINE GOODNESS IN THE EFFORTS THAT NATURE MAKES TO EFFECT HER OWN CURE. By “nature” I mean the unseen operation of His hand who healeth all our diseases; I mean God Himself, operating by certain laws which He has indented upon every part of our frame. The cure is effected without a miracle, but not without the finger of God. David, when diseased, was cured like other men, by the laws of matter, and by human means; still he takes occasion to bless and praise Jehovah as Him who healeth all our diseases.
    III. THE GREAT VARIETY OF SPECIFICS FOUND IN EVERY PART OF THE CREATION, FOR THE VARIOUS DISEASES OF MEN, SPEAK THE DIVINE GOODNESS. Probably there is not a plant or shrub that grows but yields us either food or medicine. The severest poisons are, at length, in many instances, considered the safest and speediest remedies. The mineral and vegetable kingdoms are constantly pouring their treasures into the chamber of distress. And there seems an almost inexhaustible variety. Hence they furnish a specific for every disease. Now in all this how good is God! He could have sent the plague without the remedy, the poison without the antidote. It would be our shame if we could withhold our praise, and yet live in a world so full of the glory of God, where every plant, and shrub, and mineral speaks His praise, and every disease yields to the specific He prescribes.
    IV. IT STILL IS TRUE THAT IT IS GOD WHO HEALETH ALL OUR DISEASES. But for that wisdom which He has given to man, physicians could never have known the nature or the virtue of those plants and minerals which are their appointed remedy. And His blessing makes the means effectual. Remarks.
  30. A period of recovery from sickness should be a season of praise.
  31. The life that God has made His care should be devoted to Him.
  32. We see why many have praised the Lord upon the sick bed. It is not a place so destitute of comforts as many have supposed.
  33. The subject will lead us to reflect with the psalmist on the wondrous mechanism of our natures. (D. A. Clark.)
    Divine healing:—
    The Almighty is over and over again presented as the source of strength, and as the supreme cause of health. Not without reason is He termed “Jehovah that healeth”; and various are the references to His healing mercies (Ex. 15:26; Jer. 17:14; Jer. 30:17; Ps. 147:3; Isa. 30:26). Also, when Jesus appeared as the Messiah fulfilling the hopes of the Hebrews, He healed the broken-hearted, bound up wounds and gave sight to the blind. The direct agency of the highest of all beings is brought out in the case of the woman who for twelve years had suffered and had spent her living on physicians, and only found relief when she touched the border of Christ’s garment (Luke 8:41). In this example we have only another version of Abraham’s prayer (Gen. 20:17). Now, however men may argue, the scientific mind is at one with the Bible. Life in all its phases is a mystery. While conditions and aspects of its beginnings and development have been fixed and determined, birth and death defy explorers, and that which fluctuates between the two—disease—is hardly less obscure. God the ultimate healer will be more fully recognized as science attains to its maturity. To Him, then, should the honour be attributed when we are restored from the bed of languishing and pain. That is His due. The tribute was paid Him by the ancients in adorning the altars with votive offerings, and a similar practice obtained in the Middle Ages, and in some countries has been continued to this day. I have seen altars in Europe burdened with models of the limbs and organs that have been healed by Divine mercy. It would be well for Christians in their prayer-meetings to tell how God has helped their bodies as well as their souls. Were we to speak more in His praise we would encourage more to look to Him for restoration. But His being the healer does not preclude the use of means in overcoming disease. These means may be infinitely varied and may border on the inscrutable, but they are real just the same. When it is said a virtue went out of Christ to cure the woman, that influence was the means employed, and though inexplicable, may at least suggest to thought the transmission of something from God when the sick are made whole. That certain states of feeling are remedial agencies, that they who rouse such feelings are useful, that cherished beliefs will operate on the body, and that moral improvement has in itself a curative value, is becoming more and more apparent. Xavier, who found Simon Rodriguez sick at Lisbon, chronicles the fect that the joy excited in the patient broke up the fever; and Melanchthon was operated on in a similar way by the appearance of Luther. Mr. Herbert Spencer illustrates the great power of mind over body, when he shows how intense feeling brings out great muscular force. Dr. Berdoe has shown us a gouty man throwing away his crutches and running to escape an infuriated animal. I have never doubted that the mind can affect in a wonderful way the sick. The story of the Prince of Orange at the siege of Buda, 1625, sending for mock medicine for his troops dying of scurvy is well known. He brought into camp a decoction of camomile, wormwood and camphor, which he gave out as so precious a medicine that a drop or two in a gallon of water would suffice. The restoration of the men to health was due to imagination, not physic. And the same may be said of cures wrought at the hands of monks or pious souls in the past, and at the shrines of Lourdes and Old Orchard in the present. It will not do to ascribe a desire to deceive to all the so-called miracle workers. While impositions are discernible, still many were sincere, and God evidently used their sincerity to His own glory. The cures wrought by the Jansenists at St. Midard, by the UItramontanes at La Galette and Lourdes, and by Father Ivan at St. Petersburg, have been neither few nor slight. A curious instance of the power of mind we have in what was known as the cure of the King’s evil by royal touch. Charles II. touched nearly 100,000 persons, and many were healed. And coming nearer to our own time we find William III., while practising the same act, offering a different prayer: “God give you better health and more sense.” Among curative agencies a very high rank must be assigned to the moral and the spiritual. When a man abstains from demoralizing habits, excessive feeding and drinking, the effect will be discernible in his appearance. While the cure is like that wrought by sanitation, back of it is the ideal of a pure manhood. When the spiritual is supreme, and Christians have little time to think of themselves or of their cares, and when they are fully occupied with celestial visions, they usually keep well and hearty. At such times we understand the text: “Thou art the health of my countenance and my God.” But among the means owned of God are we to class what is known as material remedies? St. Ambrose insisted that “the precepts of medicine are contrary to celestial science, watching or prayer”; only it must be remembered that this was maintained as necessary to the efficacy of relics as remedial agencies. Calstadt for different reasons sympathized with Ambrose. He declared that “whoso shall fall sick shall use no medicine or physic, but commit his case to God, praying that His will may be done.” To which Luther made answer: “Do you eat when you are hungry?” And as only an affirmative reply could be given, he continues: “Even so you may use physic, which is God’s gift just as meat and drink is, or whatever else we use for the preservation of life.” When Jesus says that “they who are whole need not a physician, but they who are sick,” He lends His countenance to the medical science. We find medicine distinctly recognized in the following places: (Prov. 17:22; Jer. 30:13; Jer. 46:11; Ezek. 47:12). Paul commends to Timothy a little wine for his stomach’s sake and his infirmities. He does not regard it as an invalidation of faith in God to use a remedy. Neither did Isaiah (2 Kings 20:7). When Ezekiel beholds the vision of “Holy Waters,” he says the leaf of the tree which grows on either side of the river shall be for medicine. Here is a distinct recognition of medicinal virtues in nature. Why should the “balm of Gilead” be praised, why should the mollifying quality in ointment be referred to by Isaiah, if all such means reflected on and were inimical to Divine healing? The case of Asa, “who sought not to the Lord, but to the physicians” (2 Chron. 16:12) is sometimes adduced against this supposition. But his error did not lie in employing doctors, but in trusting to them. Had he shown in his sickness the same discrimination he evinced in his attack on Ethiopia, when he cried out (2 Chron. 19:11), he might have overborne disease as he did his foe in the field. If God is the supreme healer what line of conduct should we, especially Christians, pursue? Surely we ought to do all in our power to provide for the comfort and recovery of the afflicted. It is written (Ps. 41:8) that “God will make all his bed”—the sick man’s—“in his sickness.” But that surely does not mean that we are not to make it too. The hand of God is precious to smooth our pillow; and a wife or daughter’s or mother’s is not an unnecessary second. We want to carry the spirit of Christ into our contact with disease. With that came more humanitarianism in the past. Establishments for the cure of the sick appeared at an early day in the east; the Infirmary of Monte Cassino and the Hôtel-Dieu were opened at Lyons in the sixth century, and in the seventh the Hôstel-Dieu in Paris; and it is to the credit of Napoleon III. that while he was building the Opera House in Paris, he was rebuilding, on a magnificent scale, the hospital of that sacred name. In this department wonderful has been the progress. We have everything apparently new from such institutions to the Ambulance Corps and the Genevan Cross. But more and more should these arrangements be permeated with the Christ spirit. This faith in God as the Divine Healer should lead to prayer for the sick. Many answers have come to us. I can testify to as many notable instances of recovery from disease as perhaps any other minister. And yet we must never forget that Jesus, overcome by agony, trembling on the verge of death, while praying for deliverance, exclaimed, “Thy will be done.” Complete reconciliation and harmony with God is worth more than a few years, more or less, of existence in the world. The devout soul will realize that He is healing all its diseases, and that the final health of the body can only come through the collapse of death leading to the glorious resurrection. But until then, I expect, in proportion as God is exalted, by faith and science the approach of that time when sickness shall largely disappear, and when (Isa. 65:20). And when that season comes health and holiness, both, under God, the product of human agencies, shall preserve the race, and the burden of earth’s anthem be: “Bless the Lord, O my soul, who forgiveth all thine iniquities, who healeth all thy diseases.” (G. C. Lorimer, D.D.)
    What follows forgiveness:—
    At one of his mission meetings Gipsy Smith recently told a story about his own little ones who had played truant, and in trying to be stern he sent them to bed without any supper. He passed the rest of the evening tiptoeing about, listening, and wondering what the effect of the punishment would be. Finally, not hearing any sound, he made his way to the bedchamber. As he leaned over the bed, one of the little fellows said: “Is that you, father?” and sobbed out, “Father, will you forgive me?” “Yes, my son, yes—yes, I will forgive you, for I love you.” “Then, father, take me down to supper.” This was used by Gipsy Smith to point the lesson that once we are forgiven by our Heavenly Father, we have the blessedness of sharing intimate communion with Him. After the kiss of reconciliation the erstwhile prodigal breaks again the “bread enough and to spare” of his Father’s house. (Sunday Circle.)
    Forgiveness possible:—
    No debt need be carried forward to another page of the book of our lives, for Christ has given Himself for us, and He speaks to us all—“Thy sins be forgiven thee.” (A. Maclaren, D. D.)
    Christ forgiving sin:—
    There is much need of asserting the great truth that God can forgive sin. Science is a teacher much honoured now, and science says that it is as impossible morally as physically to put things back where they were before; as impossible to restore a sinful heart as to make whole a broken shell. Under such teaching has grown up a modern religion whose god is fate, whose hope is dust for the body and nothingness for the soul, whose heaven is but to be an influence in others’ lives. The sect is not large, but skilful of speech in philosophy, poetry, fiction. One of them speaks through the hero of a tale: “I hate that talk of people as if there was a way of making amends for everything. They’d more need to see that the wrong they do can never be altered. It’s well we should feel that life’s a reckoning we can’t make twice over; there’s no real making amends in this world, any more than you can mend a wrong subtraction by doing your addition right.” And the age may need this lesson. We have been guilty of making sin too slight and punishment too soft. “It is good,” sing the old Eumenides in Æschylus, “that fear should sit as the guardian of the soul, forcing it into wisdom—good that men should carry a threatening shadow in their hearts under the full sunshine; else how should they learn to revere the right?” True, but God has thought it also good to give His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Far diviner is the message of Hawthorne in “The Scarlet Letter,” where the badge of sin and shame becomes the charmed symbol of a pure and helpful life. Nature knows nothing of forgiveness; science and conscience as well assure us it is impossible. They speak for their own realms, and truly. But, “when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.” How God takes care of the disaster wrought by our sin is one of the hidden things. That He will blot out our transgression as a thick cloud vanishes in the sun is His radiant promise. It is a forgiveness which not only enables us to enter heaven; it is heaven, or else, for our race, there were no heaven. God can forgive sins, and God alone; and Jesus is “God with us” forgiving sins and sending penitents away praising with a song that angels could not sing. (Christian Age.)
    The greatness of Divine mercy:—
    “Who forgiveth all thine iniquities.” God’s mercy is so great, that it forgives great sins to great sinners, after great lengths of time, and then gives great favours and great privileges, and raises us up to great enjoyments in the great heaven of the great God. As John Bunyan well says, “It must be great mercy, or no mercy; for little mercy will never serve my turn.” (C. H. Spurgeon.)
    Pardon precedes crowning:—
    We cannot expect God to crown a man with lovingkindness and tender mercies while still he is dead in sin, and lives in daily dread of a second death—a death eternal. A coronation for a condemned criminal would be a superfluity of inconsistency. To crown a hardened convict who lies in the cell at Newgate awaiting his execution, would be a cruel mockery. How could it be that God should wreathe a chaplet of favours for a man who has refused His mercy and wilfully abides under His wrath on account of unconfessed and unpardoned sin. (Ibid.)
    The need of a healer:—
    “Who healeth all thy diseases.” “Do you think that was necessary? If my Lord came to me and wiped out the guilt, annulled the debt, would not redemption be perfect?” If you take sin into your life, all the powers are affected. Conscience is seared, the fineness of the judgment is lost, the river of the affections becomes foul, the will loses its erectness. I saw the Metropolitan Tabernacle a few days after the great fire there, and noticed that every one of the pillars in the building had received a wrench, a twist. “When the fire of sin breaks out in my body every pillar of my life gets a wrench.” (J. H. Jowett.)

Exell, J. S. (1909). The Biblical Illustrator: The Psalms (Vol. 4, pp. 261–266). Fleming H. Revell Company; Francis Griffiths.

July 3 – A life of repentance | Reformed Perspective

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins…” – 1 John 1:9 

Scripture reading: 1 John 1:8-10; Psalm 32

As we continue to look at John’s theme of fellowship with God, sin is a topic that may not be ignored.  In fact, John mentions the word sin 27 times in his short epistle.  The bottom line is simply that our sin hinders our fellowship with God – always.  A true believer understands this clearly as well as the sad reality that though we desire to be free of sin in our life, we still struggle with it on a daily basis.  How do we reconcile the fact that sin hinders fellowship with God and the fact that we still sin?  In a word – repentance.

John tells us that if we look to Christ and confess our sin, God will forgive and cleanse us – every time!  It is for this reason that the Christian life can be described as a life of continual repentance.  It is not enough for us to begin our walk with the Lord asking for forgiveness and committing to new obedience, but because we continue to struggle with sin in our life, we must continue to confess and turn from those sins.  This is the path of continued fellowship with God.  Thomas Watson states, “There is no rowing to paradise except upon the stream of repenting tears.  Repentance is required as a qualification.  It is not so much to endear us to Christ as to endear Christ to us.  Till sin be bitter, Christ will not be sweet.”

Suggestions for prayer

Pray that the Lord would teach you more and more to see sin as He sees it.  Take time to repent of particular sins particularly.

Rev. Brian Murray is the associate pastor at Grace ARP Church and the Director of Gillespie Academy in Woodstock, Ontario. He has been ordained in the Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church since 2003 and he and his wife Melissa have four children. Get this devotional delivered directly to your phone each day via our RP App. This devotional is made available by the Nearer To God Devotional team, who also make available in print, for purchase, at NTGDevotional.com.

Source: July 3 – A life of repentance

June 17 Morning Verse of the Day 

CONFESSING

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1:9)

Confession of sin is absolutely crucial to entering the Light (justification) (cf. Mark 1:15; Luke 18:13–14) and walking in it (sanctification). Though this is obvious in Scripture, there are many who even claim that one needs only to accept the facts about Jesus for salvation, arguing that the confession and repentance of sin are unnecessary—or optional at best—for justification. Out of the soil of that errant soteriology comes the antinomian indifference toward a Christian life of repentance and confession for the sake of holiness. (For an in-depth discussion of this erroneous viewpoint and an exposition of the biblical doctrine of salvation, see John MacArthur, The Gospel According to Jesus [Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1988, 1994], and The Gospel According to the Apostles [Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1993, 2000].)
Such views exist in spite of biblical calls to repentance and examples of people who openly acknowledged their sins to God. “So Judah said, ‘What can we say to my lord? What can we speak? And how can we justify ourselves? God has found out the iniquity of your servants’ ” (Gen. 44:16; cf. 41:9; Jon. 3:5–10). Overwhelmed by a vision of God’s majestic holiness, the prophet Isaiah cried out, “Woe is me, for I am ruined! Because I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips; for my eyes have seen the King, the Lord of hosts” (Isa. 6:5; cf. 1 Chron. 21:17; Dan. 9:20). The Psalms are filled with confessions, most notably David’s in Psalm 51:

Be gracious to me, O God, according to Your lovingkindness; according to the greatness of Your compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me. Against You, You only, I have sinned and done what is evil in Your sight, so that You are justified when You speak and blameless when You judge. Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin my mother conceived me. Behold, You desire truth in the innermost being, and in the hidden part You will make me know wisdom. Purify me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow. Make me to hear joy and gladness, let the bones which You have broken rejoice. Hide Your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquities. (vv. 1–9; cf. 32:5; 38:1–8, 17–18; 41:4)

The New Testament includes similar expressions. No less than John the Baptist preached repentance with manifest evidence as necessary for entering into God’s salvation kingdom (Matt. 2:4–12; Luke 3:4–14). Jesus demanded recognition of sin and a response of repentance for all who desired salvation (Matt. 4:17), even saying that sinners had to repent or perish (Luke 13:3, 5). The repentance and confession of sin He demanded was so strong it required total self-denial (Luke 9:23–26) and hatred of self (Luke 14:25–27), which made coming to salvation too demanding for some (Luke 13:23–24). Peter and Paul each confessed their sinfulness (Luke 5:8; 1 Tim. 1:12–16), and two of Jesus’ parables concerned men who recognized their own sinful conditions (Luke 15:18; 18:13). Moreover, as the apostles proclaimed the gospel, they made it clear that God calls upon sinners everywhere to admit their sin and repent (Acts 17:30; cf. Isa. 45:22; Acts 2:38).
First John 1:9 fits this pattern with perfect consistency, when rightly interpreted. Because John is writing to believers (“my little children,” 2:1), to those who are antinomian it appears to make forgiveness conditional (i.e., if believers confess, God will forgive; if they do not confess, He will not forgive). This confusion is easily cleared away, first of all by noting that the verse is actually a reiteration of God’s faithfulness to His New Covenant promise of salvation in the Old Covenant: “I will forgive their iniquity, and their sin I will remember no more” (Jer. 31:34; cf. Luke 1:77–78; Heb. 9:13–14). The reminder that He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness reemphasizes the truth John had just stated in verse 7, that God will, because of His character, secure their eternal glory by continuing to cleanse believers from all future sin. He is faithful to His promise and always does what is righteous. (The aorist tense of the verb aphiēmi [forgive] carries a past connotation and further demonstrates that God’s forgiveness derives from a historical event, the atonement, which has lasting benefits for all who believe.) In chapter 2 John writes, “your sins have been forgiven you for His name’s sake” (v. 12). Forgiveness is consistent with who Jesus Christ is and with what the Father promised, according to His perfectly faithful (Isa. 49:7; 1 Cor. 1:9; Heb. 2:17; Rev. 19:11), righteous (Ps. 7:11; Isa. 53:11), just (Gen. 18:25; Col. 3:25), holy (Ex. 15:11; Rev. 4:8), and loving (Jer. 31:3; 1 John 4:8) nature. Forgiveness is not incomplete or dependent in the saving sense on believers’ confessing.
With that established, it is possible to understand the place of ongoing confession. The word translated confess (homologeō) means “to say the same thing.” Thus believers are those who confess their sins, agreeing with God about their sin—they acknowledge its reality and affirm that it is a transgression of His law and a violation of His will, the presence of which the truly penitent seek to eliminate from their lives (3:4; James 2:10–11; 4:17; cf. Rom. 7:24). What John is actually saying here about confession is that since believers are forgiven, they will regularly confess their sins. Stated another way, their forgiveness is not because of their ongoing confession, but their ongoing pattern of penitence and confession is because of their forgiveness and transformation. As the Holy Spirit sanctifies believers, He continually produces within them a hatred for sin (Ps. 97:10; Prov. 8:13; Rom. 7:15–25; Phil. 3:8–9; cf. Ps. 1:1–2), which results in penitent hearts and a sincere acknowledgment of their sins. The more believers grow in Christ, the greater their hatred of sin becomes and the deeper is their penitence. Paul, the most devout and dedicated Christian, at the end of his earthly sanctification, saw himself as the foremost of sinners (1 Tim. 1:15).
If confession is genuine, it will always stem from proper sorrow over sin and a real longing to turn from sin. In 2 Corinthians 7:9–11 Paul wrote:

I now rejoice, not that you were made sorrowful, but that you were made sorrowful to the point of repentance; for you were made sorrowful according to the will of God, so that you might not suffer loss in anything through us. For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death. For behold what earnestness this very thing, this godly sorrow, has produced in you: what vindication of yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what longing, what zeal, what avenging of wrong! In everything you demonstrated yourselves to be innocent in the matter. (cf. 2 Sam. 12:13)

The apostle was not referring to feeling bad about the consequences of one’s sinful conduct, which is the worldly sorrow characterized by despair, depression, and sometimes suicide (Matt. 27:3–5). Rather, he was describing the kind of godly sorrow that produces real repentance that leads to salvation. Biblical repentance will result in “earnestness,” “vindication,” “indignation,” “fear,” “longing,” “zeal,” and “avenging.” (For more on these results, see comments on 2 Corinthians 7:9–11 in John MacArthur, 2 Corinthians, MacArthur New Testament Commentary [Chicago: Moody, 2003], 264–67.) When repentance is present, believers will have a strong desire for God to deal with sin at any cost (cf. Matt. 5:29–30), even when that cost may be high for them personally (cf. Luke 19:8–10). True believers are therefore habitual confessors who demonstrate that God has not only pardoned their sin and is faithfully cleansing them daily from it, but has truly regenerated them, making them new creatures with holy desires that dominate their will. (Later in this epistle, John shows how true believers do not go on sinning [3:4–10], but strive to obey God [3:19–24].)
In spite of this straightforward meaning, many throughout history have misinterpreted and misapplied the concept of confession. The Roman Catholic Church, for example, sees confession as the anonymous divulging of sins to a human priest in a confessional booth. Catholics believe such confession to be a meritorious act, one that earns the confessor forgiveness, if followed by the performance of some penitential ritual (such as repeating a prayer or saying the rosary a certain number of times). Under that system, one essentially receives forgiveness based on the good works of confession and penance.
Others view confession as psychologically and emotionally therapeutic—an act that helps people feel good about feeling bad, ensuring that they “feel” forgiven and experience healing. Still others teach that the confession in this verse refers only to the moment of salvation, with no regard for subsequent times of acknowledging sin. But if one truly trusts in Christ as Lord and Savior (Luke 9:23; Acts 2:38–39; 16:31; Rom. 10:9–10; cf. Mark 10:21–27; John 15:4–8), he will regularly admit his sins before God, as the present, active form of the verb confess indicates.
Perhaps the most popular but erroneous view of confession in this context is that believers are forgiven of only those sins they confess. If that were correct, it would mean that unconfessed sins remain with believers until the judgment seat of Christ, at which time they will have to give an account for those iniquities. But such is simply not the case. No one will enter heaven with a list of unconfessed sins still hanging over his head (cf. 1 Cor. 15:50; Gal. 5:21; Eph. 5:5; Rev. 22:15), because the finished work of Jesus Christ completely covers all of the sins of those who believe, including those that remain unconfessed (see commentary on 2:12 in chapter 7 of this volume). As the apostle Paul wrote:

David also speaks of the blessing on the man to whom God credits righteousness apart from works: “Blessed are those whose lawless deeds have been forgiven, and whose sins have been covered. Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord will not take into account.” (Rom. 4:6–8; cf. 8:33; 2 Cor. 5:21; Gal. 3:13; Col. 2:13).

MacArthur, J. (2007). 1, 2, 3 John (pp. 37–41). Moody Publishers.

June 9 Morning Verse of the Day  

7:18 Who is a God like you. Micah, whose name means “Who is like the LORD” (1:1 note), perhaps employs a wordplay on his own name to emphasize God’s pardoning grace.

Sproul, R. C., ed. (2005). The Reformation Study Bible: English Standard Version (p. 1300). Ligonier Ministries.

7:18 Who is a God like you A pun on Micah’s name, which means “Who is like Yahweh?”

the remnant of his inheritance A phrase that is used often in the OT to describe Israel (see Pss 28:9; 33:12; Isa 19:25; Joel 2:17).

loyal love See note on Micah 6:8.

Barry, J. D., Mangum, D., Brown, D. R., Heiser, M. S., Custis, M., Ritzema, E., Whitehead, M. M., Grigoni, M. R., & Bomar, D. (2012, 2016). Faithlife Study Bible (Mic 7:18). Lexham Press.

7:18 Who is a God like you …? The question underscores the peerless nature of the God who defends and pardons his people (Ex. 15:11; Deut. 3:24; Ps. 35:10; 89:5–8; cf. Mic. 7:10). because he delights in steadfast love. This provides the basis for why God forgives and relents of his anger. The divine and prophetic confrontation as a result of Israel’s sin (1:5; 3:8) yields to the feeding (7:14) and forgiving of his inheritance (Jer. 50:17–20).

7:18 Pardon is accomplished in Christ (Rom. 3:23–26; 1 John 2:2). On the remnant, see notes on Isa. 1:9 and 6:13.

Crossway Bibles. (2008). The ESV Study Bible (p. 1708). Crossway Bibles.

7:18 Who is a God like You. There is no God like the Lord, who reveals His glory in forgiving sins. The meaning of Micah’s name, “Who is like the Lord?” is reflected in this question. remnant of His inheritance? Cf 4:7. See “portion,” p 7; see also “remnant,” p 1080. steadfast love. God’s love differs from human love in that it never ceases (Rm 8:31–39). See p 843.

Engelbrecht, E. A. (2009). The Lutheran Study Bible (p. 1497). Concordia Publishing House.

† 7:18 — Who is a God like You, pardoning iniquity and passing over the transgression of the remnant of His heritage?
God was never under any obligation to forgive our sins or pardon our iniquity. We do not deserve His mercy. But He loves us and so sent His Son to die for our sins. Who, indeed, is a God like that?

Stanley, C. F. (2005). The Charles F. Stanley life principles Bible: New King James Version (Mic 7:18). Nelson Bibles.

18 Micah artfully weaves his name, ‘Who is like Yah’, into the beginning of the people’s hymn, Who is a God like you …? None compares to him who pardons sin [guilt] and forgives … transgression (see 1:5). Israel’s breach of covenant was so great that none, apart from God, would have forgiven it (cf. 1 Tim. 1:15–17). Yet without that forgiveness Micah’s ministry would have been pointless. He would have had the satisfaction of venting his spleen, but the people would have been hardened in their sin (cf. Ps. 130:3–4). He now piles up God’s benevolent qualities, do not stay angry, show mercy (twice), have compassion and be true. God showed these same qualities when Israel sinned in making the golden calf and Moses asked him to show his glory (Ex. 34:6). 19 On account of his mercy, God will hurl all of his people’s iniquities into the depths of the sea so that they no longer threaten Israel’s existence, even as he had hurled Pharaoh’s army into the sea. 20 These qualities also guarantee that he will be true to keep his covenant he pledged on oath to their fathers in days long ago. All of this is possible because of Jesus Christ, who paid the penalty for his people’s sins and is God’s ‘Amen’ to his covenant promises.

Bruce Waltke

Waltke, B. K. (1994). Micah. In D. A. Carson, R. T. France, J. A. Motyer, & G. J. Wenham (Eds.), New Bible commentary: 21st century edition (4th ed., pp. 832–833). Inter-Varsity Press.

Forgiveness Worth Suffering For | Grace to You Blog

Christ’s words in Matthew 5:23–26 teach us the urgency of forgiveness and reconciliation:

if you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering. Make friends quickly with your opponent at law while you are with him on the way, so that your opponent may not hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the officer, and you be thrown into prison. Truly I say to you, you will not come out of there until you have paid up the last cent.

The presumption seems to be that the party who is being handed over to the judge is the guilty party. Since he has committed the wrong, it is therefore incumbent on him more than on anyone else to seek to remedy the wrong speedily.

But sometimes it even may be appropriate for the one who has been wronged simply to suffer the wrong, especially if necessary to avoid the dishonor of bringing a dispute before a secular court.

In the church at Corinth, for example, there were believers who, refusing to settle their differences among themselves, were suing one another in pagan courts (1 Corinthians 6:1). Paul reminded them that it is better to suffer wrong or be defrauded than to bring a lawsuit against another believer before a pagan judge. That is the most notable example of Christian forgiveness, even when there is not reconciliation.

Sadly, I have known of several Christians who were willing to violate that clear command. They always seem convinced that somehow their case is the exception to Paul’s rule. Give them an opportunity to explain why they feel they are within their rights to sue a fellow Christian and inevitably they will explain how they are about to be wronged through some great injustice that only a court can remedy. Surely God does not countenance such gross injustices, they typically plead, saying He cannot wish that this wrong be overlooked, and so on.

Paul recognizes that the other person may be wrong. But he plainly says it is better to be defrauded than to sue another Christian (1 Corinthians 6:7). Lawsuits where a Christian takes another Christian before a secular judge are never justifiable.

But what if the offender stubbornly and deliberately refuses to acknowledge the wrong? The church, rather than a secular court, should act as arbiter. Ultimately in such cases, the church may need to institute discipline against the offending member (1 Corinthians 6:2).

I’m convinced that if church discipline were more consistently practiced, there would be fewer such conflicts between Christians, and genuine love and harmony would prevail more in the church.

An appalling number of churches refuse to obey the biblical instructions to discipline sinning members. What should someone do who has exhausted every avenue of appeal in the church and still feels an injustice has been done? In such cases, 1 Corinthians 6:7 applies: suffer the wrong for the sake of Christ. If the church you attend is wantonly disobeying Christ’s clear instructions about how to deal with sin within the fellowship, you may need to seek a church where Scripture is more faithfully obeyed.

But some injustices will never be made right this side of eternity. It is clear that the Christian’s duty in such cases is to suffer the wrong gracefully, magnanimously, and willingly for the sake of Christ. God Himself will ultimately right all such wrongs. Meanwhile, we must refuse to harbor a grudge. We must never allow a spirit of resentment to stain our character. We must seek to be like Joseph, willing to see the hand of God working good, even in the most unjust circumstances.

When It Is Hard to Forgive

Forgiveness certainly does not come naturally to fallen creatures. We tend to be driven too much by our feelings. Those who indulge themselves in bitter feelings will find forgiveness does not easily germinate in such soil. Instead, the root that springs up is a defiling influence. It is hurtful not only to the bitter person, but to many others as well (Hebrews 12:15).

Forgiveness is often frustrated by negative emotions, lingering resentment, and unquenched anger. Some imagine, wrongly, that they cannot forgive if they do not “feel” like forgiving.

But as we already noted briefly, forgiveness is not a feeling. Those who insist on being driven by passion will find forgiveness very hard indeed, because forgiveness often involves a deliberate choice that runs contrary to our feelings. Bitter emotions tell us to dwell on an offense. In contrast, forgiveness is a voluntary, rational decision to set the offense aside and desire only the best for the offender.

“But I cannot do that,” someone says. “I try to set it aside, but everywhere I go, something reminds me, and I find myself thinking about it and getting upset all over again.”

Such thoughts are temptations to sin. Brooding over an offense is no less a sin than lust or covetousness or any other heart-sin. A willful choice must be made to turn away from that kind of thinking. Instead we must deliberately cover the offense and refuse to succumb to angry and vengeful thinking, whether we feel like it or not.

Those who forgive even when it’s hard invariably find that the proper emotions will follow. “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you” (Luke 6:27–28)—those are all willful, deliberate, rational acts, not emotional reflexes. Obey Christ’s commands to do such things, and your anger will eventually give way to meekness, frustration will be overcome by peace, and anxiety will succumb to calm.

Forgiveness results in the lifting of many burdens. To grant someone forgiveness when he or she repents is to lift the burden of guilt from that person. But to forgive when forgiveness is unilateral and unconditional liberates the forgiver to enjoy the even greater mercies given in return by a generous heavenly Father, who promises to pour into our laps a “good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over” (Luke 6:38).

(Adapted from The Freedom and Power of Forgiveness)

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Forgiving Without Condition or Confrontation | Grace to You Blog

If God doesn’t forgive our sins until we repent, does that mean we should not forgive others until they repent? If we forgive someone but they are not repentant, would that be unjust? All Christians face these questions at some point in their life.

Last time, we saw that unconditional forgiveness is often the correct response. It is good to forgive people even when they do not repent. But it is obvious from Scripture that sometimes forgiveness must be conditional. For example, in certain cases the offender is to be confronted and ultimately even excommunicated from the church if he refuses to repent (Luke 17:3Matthew 18:15–17).

But does every offense call for confrontation, possibly leading to formal church discipline? Is there no place for simply granting unilateral forgiveness for petty offenses? Is there no time when the offended party should simply overlook a transgression, choosing to suffer wrong and forgive without being asked or without formally confronting the offender?

Obviously, these questions have important practical ramifications. If you had a friend who scrupulously tried to confront you every time you committed a petty offense, wouldn’t the friendship grow tedious pretty quickly? And if marriage partners saw it as their solemn duty to confront each other for every offense, wouldn’t such a mind-set make the marriage relationship practically impossible to endure?

It is a mistake to assume that verses like Luke 17:3 (“If your brother sins, rebuke him”) and Matthew 18:15 (“If your brother sins, go and show him his fault”) are absolute prescriptions for every kind of transgression. If we were obligated to confront one another for every paltry misdeed, we would be doing little else.

Indeed, Scripture gives us another principle for dealing with the vast majority of petty infractions: overlook the offense. Forgive unilaterally and unconditionally. Grant pardon freely and unceremoniously. Love demands this: “Keep fervent in your love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). “Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all transgressions” (Proverbs 10:12). “He who covers a transgression seeks love” (Proverbs 17:9). Love “does not take into account a wrong suffered . . . [but] bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:5–7).

Yet, because some Christians insist that forgiveness is a two-way transaction, they have no room for unilateral or unconditional forgiveness. So they draw a distinction between forgiveness and overlooking another’s transgression. If true, that would mean all the petty offenses we choose to overlook (or “cover,” in biblical terminology) are not really to be regarded as forgiven.

But the Bible itself makes no such distinction. Covering another’s transgression is the very essence of forgiveness. Speaking of God’s forgiveness, Psalm 32:1 equates the concepts of forgiveness and the covering of sin: “How blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered!” This is a Hebrew parallelism, employing two different expressions to designate the same concept. To cover someone else’s sin is the very essence of forgiveness.

Psalm 85:2 draws the same parallel: “You forgave the iniquity of Your people; You covered all their sin.”

James 5:20 also equates forgiveness with the covering of sin: “He who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death, and will cover a multitude of sins.”

So when 1 Peter 4:8 says, “Love covers a multitude of sins,” it is describing forgiveness.

Furthermore, Scripture also teaches that forgiveness can be unilateral and unconditional. Mark 11:25–26 clearly speaks of this kind of forgiveness and even makes it a condition for receiving God’s forgiveness: “Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your transgressions. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father who is in heaven forgive your transgressions.”

That describes an immediate forgiveness granted to the offender with no formal meeting or transaction required. It necessarily refers to a pardon that is wholly unilateral, because this forgiveness takes place while the forgiver stands praying. “Forgive” is the clear command of that verse, and it is to take place on the spot. There is no mention of confrontation. There is no command to seek the offender’s repentance. The forgiveness of Mark 11:25 is therefore different from the forgiveness of Luke 17:3. This forgiveness is to be granted unconditionally and unilaterally.

Unconditional Forgiveness: What Does It Mean?

What does unilateral forgiveness entail? If there’s no transaction, no seeking of forgiveness, no formal granting of pardon, no words exchanged between the two parties, then what exactly is accomplished by this sort of forgiveness?

Its chief effects are wrought in the heart of the forgiver. This kind of forgiveness involves a deliberate decision to cover the other person’s offense. “Forgive” in Mark 11:25 is an imperative, a command. The forgiveness called for here is necessarily a volitional matter. In other words, it is a choice, not a feeling or an involuntary response.

It is, as Matthew 18:35 suggests, from the heart; but even that does not place forgiveness primarily in the realm of feeling. “Heart” in Scripture normally designates the seat of the intellect (cf. Proverbs 23:7Luke 9:47). So this speaks of a deliberate and rational decision. It is a choice made by the offended party to set aside the other person’s transgression and not permit the offense to cause a breach in the relationship or fester in bitterness.

In effect, the person who chooses to forgive resolves not to remember the offense, refuses to hold a grudge, relinquishes any claim on recompense, and resists the temptation to brood or retaliate. The offended party simply bears the insult. The offense is set aside, lovingly covered for Christ’s sake. For petty and unintentional offenses, this is the proper and loving way to forgive—unilaterally, without confrontation and without stirring any strife.

This, I believe, is what Scripture refers to most often when it calls us to forgive one another. The heavy emphasis on forgiveness in Scripture is not meant to make us more confrontational, but quite the opposite. When Scripture calls us to have an attitude of forgiveness, the emphasis is always on long-suffering, patience, benevolence, forbearance, kindness, and mercy—not confrontation.

To deny that forgiveness can ever be unilateral is in my view a potentially serious mistake. It places too much stress on confrontation. And that tends to produce more conflict than it avoids. People who insist on confronting every wrong often simply stir strife—the antithesis of what Jesus’ teaching on forgiveness was intended to produce. Real love should cover the vast majority of transgressions, not constantly haul them out in the open for dissection (1 Peter 4:8).

Yet, there are times when this is not possible. In the days ahead, we’ll see what the Bible tells us to do when unconditional forgiveness is not possible.

(Adapted from The Freedom and Power of Forgiveness)

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Featured Sermon: “The Characteristics of One Who Forgives” | Grace to You Blog

This blog was originally published in June 2017. –ed.

Forgiveness doesn’t come naturally in this angry world. In fact, it’s downright incompatible with the predominant victim mentality that cultivates rage.

It’s a blessed relief God isn’t like us in that regard. While He maintains standards of justice and wrath far beyond anything we can conceive of, He is still “gracious and merciful; slow to anger and great in lovingkindness” (Psalm 145:8).

God has an eagerness to forgive that we ought to emulate as the beneficiaries of His great forgiveness. In fact, Jesus told a frightening parable about the future outcome awaiting those who continue in their merciless ways after experiencing His mercy (Matthew 18:23–35).

John MacArthur’s sermon, “The Characteristics of One Who Forgives”, is a powerful exhortation for us to follow Christ’s example and be forgiving people. Using Paul’s short epistle to Philemon, John lays out the biblical characteristics of genuine Christian forgiveness.

The story of Philemon and his runaway slave, Onesimus, who later came to saving faith under the ministry of Paul, encapsulates the nature of true forgiveness. Philemon had already experienced Christ’s forgiveness and Paul wrote to him urging him to do likewise with Onesimus.

In “The Characteristics of One Who Forgives,” John reveals six implicit characteristics of forgiveness as laid out in Philemon 4–7. And in case we still lack motivation to forgive, John also provides four stern warnings for all who “disease [their] whole existence” by maintaining an unforgiving posture.

First, unforgiveness makes you a prisoner of your past. The refusal to forgive keeps the pain of previous offences alive and your life shackled to those past events.

Second, unforgiveness produces bitterness in your life. The cumulative effect of remembering without forgiving causes bitterness to fester. The more it occupies your thinking, the more it shapes your character.

Third, unforgiveness gives Satan an open door to your life. Where you have an unforgiving spirit, you are giving place to the devil in your life (Ephesians 4:26–27). Unforgiveness is Satan’s chief means for gaining a foothold in the lives of Christians.

And fourth, unforgiveness damages your fellowship with God. Jesus said, “If you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions” (Matthew 6:14–15).

A lack of forgiveness in our own lives demonstrates a failure to grasp the immensity of Christ’s forgiveness for our litany of crimes against Him. Everyone who claims to be a Christian should exhibit “The Characteristics of One Who Forgives.”

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Dis. Grace.: Responding Biblically to Church Scandal | Michelle Lesley

Originally published June 30, 2015


The last time I re-ran this article was in September of 2024 (only about eight months ago), when Steve Lawson was caught in sin. Today, I’m re-running it because another well known pastor, and president of G3 Ministries, Josh Buice, has been caught in sin. As Josh is under church discipline, I have removed him from my list of recommended pastors and teachers. G3 itself is still a trustworthy ministry, and my hearty recommendation of it continues. Please read the statement from G3 here.

If you are registered for the G3 Women’s Expository Teaching Workshop at the end of May, any of the other workshops, or the national conference this fall, please check the email address you registered with for further information on your registration. I’m so sorry I won’t get to see those of you who were going to be at the women’s workshop.

I’m going to take the rest of this week off from blogging, not just due to this, but primarily due to some other things I’ve got going on as well (mostly good things🙂).

Please keep G3 Ministries and Prays Mill Baptist Church (Josh’s church) in your prayers as they navigate this difficult time.


It happened again last week. Another scandal. Another high profile pastor stepping down from the ministry in disgrace. Another family broken. Another church stunned and bereft.

And it’s not just the money grubbing televangelists anymore, either. This was one of the theological good guys. Sadly, pastors and Christian leaders – both those in the public eye and those right around the corner – seem to be dropping like flies these days. Adultery. Financial sin. Pornography. Abuse. Fraud. The list of sinful behavior goes on and on, leaving a wake of destruction in its path and giving Christ and His bride a black eye in the process.

So, what is the biblical response to scandals like these for Joe and Jane Christian? We view the situation through the lenses of Romans 8:28:

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

How can God use this scandal, awful as it is, for my good and the good of my brothers and sisters in Christ? It’s an opportunity to learn, teach, and minister in so many ways:

Fully grasp the destructive power of sin…

Imagine the agony the pastor’s sin is creating in so many lives. What must his wife be going through? His children? His church? What about his own relationship with God? What about the lost people he was trying to win to Christ? What about the fact that his career may be over and he may lose his house?

It’s been said that sin destroys completely and completely destroys. It’s a good time to reflect on the fact that sin is not something to be trifled with. Count the cost. Would it be worth it to you to commit the same sin in your own life?

It’s been said that sin destroys completely and completely destroys. It’s a good time to reflect on the fact that sin is not something to be trifled with.Tweet

Realize your need for Christ…

“There, but for the grace of God, go I.” “Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall.” (1 Corinthians 10:12) “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” (Proverbs 16:18)

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking you’re better or holier than the person who sinned, therefore, you would never do what he did. Instead, let his sin push you towards the cross, realizing that you’re just as weak and susceptible to temptation as he is. Let it amp up your prayer life and drive you to cling to Christ and His word lest you fall into sin.

Let his sin push you towards the cross, realizing that you’re just as weak and susceptible to temptation as he is.Tweet

Dive into God’s word…

What does the Bible say about the sin in question? Learn what God’s word says. Apply it to your life, your work, or your marriage. Teach it to your children. Share it with those in your circle of influence. Build up your brothers and sisters in Christ so they might stand firm against temptation.

Implement safeguards…

People don’t just wake up one day and decide to commit adultery or embezzlement or whatever. Every sin starts with a wayward thought, which, when left unchecked (or entertained), snowballs into action. What could the scandalized pastor have done, practically, to prevent his sin? What are some concrete, proactive steps you can take to guard against sin in your life? Maybe your husband should hold the credit cards or you should cut ties with that certain male friend. Don’t wait for sin to find you. Build some walls before it arrives.

Use the scandal as a springboard for prayer…

Pray for those involved in the scandal. Ask God to protect you, your husband, and your loved ones from that particular sin. Realize that your own pastor and church staff are tempted to sin every day, pray for them regularly, and let them know you’re praying for them.

Practice the Golden Rule

What if you were the one who sinned? How would you want people to talk about and treat you and your family? Call a sin a sin, but let’s remember, when it comes to scandals, to watch our words and actions, and treat others the way we would want to be treated.

Use the scandal as an opportunity to share the gospel…

Inevitably, some lost people will see pastoral sin as one more candle in their “Christians are just a bunch of hypocrites” cake. Don’t be embarrassed if an unbeliever approaches you with this line of fire (and whatever you do, don’t try to make light of or justify the pastor’s sin). Own it. Admit it. “You’re right. This guy sinned. He needs to repent and be forgiven by Christ. He needs to make things right with the people around him. Just like me. Just like you. By the way, Christ was crucified for sinners like him and me and you. Have you ever repented of your own sin and trusted in Christ’s death, burial, and resurrection as the payment for your sin? Mind if I tell you how?”

Repent and Forgive…

It’s hurtful when someone you trust and look up to lets you down. But because we’re sinful humans living in a broken world, it’s going to happen. The pastor who sinned needs to repent. When he does, the people around him need to forgive, even though there will probably still be disciplinary consequences to his actions. Is there sin in your life that you need to repent of and face the consequences for? Is there someone who has sinned against you that you need to forgive? God extends the grace of forgiveness to repentant sinners and the grace to forgive to their victims. Repent. Forgive.

Scandals among Christian leaders are heartbreaking, disappointing, embarrassing. But the God who sent His only Son to the cross to turn sinners into saints has a wonderful way of taking offenses and turning them into opportunities for His kingdom.

Scandals among Christian leaders are heartbreaking. But the God who sent His only Son to the cross to turn sinners into saints has a wonderful way of taking offenses and turning them into opportunities for His kingdom.Tweet


Additional Resources

Pastoral Propriety with Church Ladies, and 7 Ways Women Can Help

Sin Feels Like Death, Because it Is by Amy Spreeman

“Disqualified”: What it means and how a pastor gets there at The Cripplegate

Taking Offense | Michelle Lesley

Originally published July 14, 2016

Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11

Have you ever noticed how easily people get offended these days? We have to watch what we say, wear, and display. We have to be careful about how (or if) we express our political and religious views. A mere, “you look nice today” can be the beginning of a lawsuit.

Even as Christians, it’s easy to get sucked in to wearing our feelings on our sleeves and taking offense to everything that rubs us the wrong way.Tweet

Even as Christians, it’s easy to get sucked in to wearing our feelings on our sleeves and taking offense to everything that rubs us the wrong way. Certainly, there are important, biblical issues that we need to take a firm stand on in society, in the church, and at home, but for those of us who follow Christ, most personal offenses do not require a confrontation. Most personal offenses demand that we extend grace and love to the offender.

That’s a bitter pill for the flesh to swallow if you’re anything like me. My flesh wants revenge. My flesh wants justice and retribution to immediately prevail. My flesh wants that person to grovelingly admit he or she was wrong and beg for forgiveness. And I know it’s my carnal nature that wants those things because both Jesus’ teachings and His life stand in direct opposition to such desires:

The Pharisees insinuated that Jesus was of illegitimate birth and that his mother was promiscuous.  They called Him a Samaritan – a racial epithet which, in that time, would have been on par with calling someone the “n-word” during the Civil Rights movement. And they called him demon-possessed – which called his mental health and intelligence into question. And all of these insults carried with them the overriding weightiness of calling Him unclean; someone under God’s judgment who deserved to be an outcast.

What did Jesus do? He didn’t retaliate. He used the offensive remarks to keep on trying to reach the hearts of the Pharisees – the offenders – with the gospel.

Jesus taught us to…

…love our enemies

…do good to those who hate us

…bless those who curse us

…pray for people who abuse us

…turn the other cheek

…give to those who want to take from us

…treat others the way we want to be treated.

Even on the cross, after being falsely accused, verbally abused, wrongly arrested, hauled in front of a kangaroo court, and illegally put to death, Jesus’ words for His foes were not pronouncements of judgment and wrath, but, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

The calling of Christ is not a calling to “be carried to the skies on flowery beds of ease” but a calling to deny ourselves, take up our crosses daily, and give up our lives for Him.Tweet

That’s a pretty tough act to follow. But then, the calling of Christ is not a calling to “be carried to the skies on flowery beds of ease” but a calling to deny ourselves, take up our crosses daily, and give up our lives for Him. That precious calling may not end up with you being crucified for your faith, but surely it can start by ignoring that tiny arrow whizzing past your head as you love the person aiming the bow at you.

Take the offense. Overlook it. Extend grace. Forgive. Bless. Walk in the way of your Master.

What are some good ways to extend grace
when someone offends you?

April 14 | FORGIVING OTHERS

  “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.”

LUKE 23:34

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 As Jesus forgave others (including us), we should extend forgiveness to those who wrong us.

Jesus had a forgiving heart right up to the end, even after He had experienced a lifetime of mankind’s worst treatment. He came down to a world He had created, but that world rebuffed Him. Its inhabitants’ eyes were blinded by sin, and they could not see any beauty in Jesus. Almost immediately after His humble birth in a stable, King Herod sought to have Him killed (Matt. 2:13, 16–18). And the Jewish leaders on various occasions contested Christ’s teachings and looked for opportunities to seize Him and kill Him. The cross was just the culmination of a lifetime of persecution against Jesus.
Jesus’ death by crucifixion was one of the most humiliating, painful forms of execution the world has ever known. From a human perspective, we would have expected Him to plead with God the Father for mercy or to be enraged at God and denounce Him for allowing Him to be crucified. If we had written the original script for Jesus’ crucifixion scene, we probably would have had Him screaming threats of retaliation at His killers. But our Savior did none of those things. Instead, He asked His Father to forgive His enemies.
The Lord Jesus prayed for the most important need His executioners would ever have. They would never be able to enter the presence of a holy God if their sins were not forgiven. Christ was concerned that His opponents, who were ignorantly putting Him to death, have an opportunity to be forgiven rather than endure God’s vengeance.
Such an attitude of love and mercy should also be ours. We, unlike Jesus, are sinners ourselves who need constant forgiveness. Therefore, when we are wronged, our primary concern ought to be that God would forgive the one who has sinned against us. An excellent model of this attitude is Stephen, who prayed as he was being stoned to death, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them!” (Acts 7:60). He followed Christ’s own example of love and forgiveness, and so should we.

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Suggestions for Prayer: Pray that you may have a more consistently forgiving attitude toward others who wrong or offend you.

For Further Study: Read Matthew 18:21–35. What is implied in Jesus’ figurative expression “seventy times seven” (v. 22) regarding forgiving others? ✧ Ultimately, how much does it matter that we maintain a forgiving attitude (vv. 32–35)?

MacArthur, J. (1997). Strength for today. Crossway Books.

Morning, April 3 | “They took Jesus, and led him away.”—John 19:16

He had been all night in agony, he had spent the early morning at the hall of Caiaphas, he had been hurried from Caiaphas to Pilate, from Pilate to Herod, and from Herod back again to Pilate; he had, therefore, but little strength left, and yet neither refreshment nor rest were permitted him. They were eager for his blood, and therefore led him out to die, loaded with the cross. O dolorous procession! Well may Salem’s daughters weep. My soul, do thou weep also.

What learn we here as we see our blessed Lord led forth? Do we not perceive that truth which was set forth in shadow by the scapegoat? Did not the high-priest bring the scapegoat, and put both his hands upon its head, confessing the sins of the people, that thus those sins might be laid upon the goat, and cease from the people? Then the goat was led away by a fit man into the wilderness, and it carried away the sins of the people, so that if they were sought for they could not be found. Now we see Jesus brought before the priests and rulers, who pronounce him guilty; God himself imputes our sins to him, “the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all;” “He was made sin for us;” and, as the substitute for our guilt, bearing our sin upon his shoulders, represented by the cross; we see the great Scapegoat led away by the appointed officers of justice. Beloved, can you feel assured that he carried your sin? As you look at the cross upon his shoulders, does it represent your sin? There is one way by which you can tell whether he carried your sin or not. Have you laid your hand upon his head, confessed your sin, and trusted in him? Then your sin lies not on you; it has all been transferred by blessed imputation to Christ, and he bears it on his shoulder as a load heavier than the cross.

Let not the picture vanish till you have rejoiced in your own deliverance, and adored the loving Redeemer upon whom your iniquities were laid.

Spurgeon, C. H. (1896). Morning and evening: Daily readings. Passmore & Alabaster.

What Is the Difference between Forgiving, Forgetting, and Reconciling? | Christianity.com

What’s the real difference between forgiving someone, forgetting what they did, and fully reconciling the relationship? This powerful article breaks down what the Bible actually says—and doesn’t say—about forgiveness, grace, and boundaries. If you’ve ever struggled to know what’s required of you when someone hurts you, this will bring clarity, comfort, and freedom.

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Updated Mar 24, 2025

What Is the Difference between Forgiving, Forgetting, and Reconciling?

In Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë, Jane turns down St. John’s offer of marriage. She can go with him as a fellow laborer on the mission field to India, but not as a wife. There exists no romantic love between them – not like the love she had experienced with Mr. Rochester. Unsurprisingly, St. John does not take the refusal well. Despite his statement that he had forgiven Jane, St. John distances himself from her and lets her know that he will remember what she had said. As Jane stated in the book, “he had forgiven me for saying I scorned him and his love, but he had not forgotten the words; and as long as he and I lived he never would forget them” (Jane Eyre, Barnes & Noble, 2020, p. 479).   

It is unlikely that St. John had truly forgiven the heroine at this point in the story. Yet, even if he had, Brontë portrays an evident difference between forgiving, forgetting, and reconciling, which is true to life. Just because a person has extended the hand of grace to another does not necessarily mean the relationship can continue as normal. In the case of Jane and St. John, their friendship could never be the same as it was before his proposal of marriage.  

Sometimes, Christians are too quick to equate forgiveness with these other actions, which has led to misunderstandings. Individuals may think they must reenter a relationship with everyone who has offended or hurt them. Or to act as if a sin had never occurred. But to forgive is different than forgetting or reconciling with another. We see this evidenced in the Bible with how God has chosen to deal with us. And if we are wise, we will take note of our Lord’s actions and seek to imitate Him in our daily lives while at the same time recognizing that human relationships, like the ones shown in Jane Eyre, are complicated.    

God’s Mercy and Our Relationship to Him 

The basis for our understanding of forgiveness should come from the merciful character of our Lord. Before any person had ever experienced the pain of being hurt by another, humans caused the Lord grief by turning away from His command and sinning against Him (Genesis 3:6-19). This action caused Adam and Eve, and all humans since, to be separated from God. No longer would He walk with them companionably through the Garden of Eden. They were exiled from the garden and cut off from a close communion with the Lord because of sin (Genesis 3:23).  

If humans were the ones who caused a rift in their relationship with the Lord, then they should be the ones to fix it, right? Well, no. The gulf is too wide, and all the good deeds we try to do pale in comparison to the severity of our wrongdoings (Isaiah 64:6). On our own, there is no way to make things right with God.  

But that is where the Lord has most shown His mercy and grace. Although He is not to blame for the fractured relationship, He took it upon Himself to amend it. God the Father sent the Son to die for our sins on the cross (John 3:16). Through Jesus, we are forgiven of our sins because He endured the punishment that we rightly deserve (see Colossians 1:13-14).  

In addition to receiving forgiveness, we also receive the promise that God chooses not to remember our sins anymore (Isaiah 43:252 Corinthians 5:19). Scripture tells us that “He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west” (Psalm 103:12, NLT). If our past was a messy whiteboard, then Jesus is the eraser that has wiped it clean and made us new.    

Not only that, but the Lord has made the erring rebel into a precious child. When we trust in Jesus’ death and resurrection, we are reconciled to the Lord and enter an everlasting relationship – the one for which we were created (John 17:3Romans 5:10). The great chasm has been crossed, and we are brought near despite our former positions as outcasts and enemies of God. We are now beloved sons and daughters tasked with the ministry of reconciliation (2 Corinthians 5:18-21).   

Based on the biblical evidence, forgiveness, the  decision to forget sin, and reconciliation are closely related. God forgave and reconciled us to Himself, choosing not to count our sins against us. We are accustomed to hearing about the Lord forgiving us and bringing us into a relationship with Himself. However, we should not confuse these different functions, especially when we apply them to our daily lives, for they are distinct acts, even if the Lord has accomplished all of them through Christ’s death and resurrection.     

What Does it Mean to Forgive?

The Lord has forgiven us because of His grace, and He calls us to deal with others in the same way. As Paul wrote in his letter to the Ephesian Christians, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32, NIV; see also Colossians 3:13). We should be people known for mercy, offering forgiveness to others just as our loving Lord showed us grace by forgiving our sins. Withholding forgiveness does not fit who we are as followers of Jesus (Matthew 18:21-35).  

Of course, this is easier said than done. Forgiveness is difficult because of the mix of emotions and events that have passed between people. For example, someone who has been deeply hurt by the actions of another will struggle to stop harboring anger and bitterness towards that person. The offense seems too severe, and justice is desired.  

Yet whenever we are wronged and deeply hurt, we need to remember our Lord on the cross. Jesus died for us while we were still sinners – we had not tried to change or make amends, and He still endured death for our sake (Romans 5:8). And as the Savior hung on the cross, He forgave those who put Him there (Luke 23:34).   

None of us deserve forgiveness, but the Lord gives us grace. We can forgive because of what Christ did for us. As we do, justice is not neglected, for we entrust our hurt and pain to the One who judges justly, like our Lord did (1 Peter 2:23). Vengeance belongs to Him, not us. By forgiving those who wrong us, we let go of the bitterness and hatred in our hearts – things that can destroy us if we allow them to remain in our lives.    

What Is the Difference between Forgiving and Forgetting?

It is common to hear people say, “Forgiving is forgetting.” The idea is that a person’s wrongdoing has been wiped away and no longer has a bearing on the relationship. To forgive, however, is not the same as choosing not to remember an offense. Forgiving involves letting go of bitterness or hatred. The person knows what has happened and acknowledges it as wrong but chooses to extend grace.  

Forgetting is associated with forgiveness but is distinct in that it involves not counting a person’s wrongdoing against him or her. God gives us forgiveness and decides not to remember our sins anymore. He knows what we did – it is not as if He developed amnesia. He has, instead, chosen not to hold our sins against us. As the Bible tells us, “I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more” (Hebrews 8:12, NIV; also see Jeremiah 31:34). 

In considering the difference between these two acts, though, we do not want to downplay the evident biblical closeness between forgiving and forgetting. A believer who insists they have forgiven someone while in the next moment vowing never to forget the harm done to them conveys a paradox. Yes, there are actions and words that will continue to affect us in the future and on which we may sometimes dwell. It is not as if the hurt will be wiped from our memory. Neither does this mean we should ignore or overlook abuse or remain in a dangerous situation? However, if we are unable to lay aside an offense after extending grace, then a remnant of unforgiveness may still be nestled in our hearts. 

The loving presence of the Lord enables us to not only forgive someone who has wronged us but to move on and not count the sin against the person. God does not deal with us as our sins deserve (Psalm 103:10). As imitators of Him, we should strive to do the same by the power of the Spirit.       

What Does it Mean to Be Reconciled?

When we place faith in Jesus for salvation, we are reconciled to God. The separation that formerly marked our position to the Lord changes so that we are brought near to Him. Reconciliation was always part of the plan of salvation because God wants to be in a relationship with us. And that is the blessing all believers receive.  

The Lord desires all people to be saved (1 Timothy 2:42 Peter 3:9). But not everyone will be restored to a right relationship with the Lord because some will remain in their unbelief and reject Him. They will continue to be separated from God. Thus, Jesus has provided a way for people to receive forgiveness of sins and reconciliation with the Father. However, that does not mean everyone will accept these gifts.  

Similarly, in human relationships, reconciliation is not always possible or wise. For example, a woman in an abusive marriage can arrive at a place where she can forgive her husband, but she does not have to remain in that relationship. Trust has been broken, which makes reconciliation an unwise and unsafe option. Or, in the case of a person who lost a parent because of the recklessness of a drunk driver. Over time, with the help of Christ, the individual will be able to forgive the offender – but that does not mean he or she should seek to connect with the person.  

A restoration of a relationship does not always happen after forgiveness. We need to recognize this reality as we work through issues with others. There will be situations in which we should reconnect with those we have forgiven, like what we see modeled in the Bible through Joseph’s life. His brothers expressed remorse over what they had done, and Joseph forgave them and treated them kindly (Genesis 50:15-21). Other times, though, the relationship is too far gone for any hope of reconciliation. Forgiveness is still possible, but reconnecting with the person who sinned against us is not a choice in every circumstance.  

We should strive to forgive others as the Lord has forgiven us while also knowing that it is not always possible to reconcile with them.  

https://www.christianity.com/wiki/christian-terms/what-is-the-difference-between-forgiving-forgetting-and-reconciling.html

MARCH 29 | Your Dearest Friend

SCRIPTURE READING: John 15:12–17
KEY VERSE: John 15:9

As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love.

True friendship includes many things: love, a sense of closeness, forgiveness, openness, and availability. A true friend knows how to listen and, if necessary, be silent about his own needs at times. Only God can use a friend to help heal a hurting heart. Friendship also includes acceptance, flexibility, commitment, and a sense of unselfishness,
George Matheson said of a friend: “If I would know the love of my friend I must see what it can do in the winter.” Loving someone else can be difficult. We are not easy to love at times. We have flaws in our lives that need God’s attention, forgiveness, and care. But we also contain something worth sharing with another.
Because of the love of Christ that has been given to us, we are worthy to be loved and to love. It is God’s love that motivates you to care for someone else. It is His example of pure love that spurs you to forgive when you have been unjustly hurt or accused. God loves you even when you act totally unlovely. He forgives and offers you another chance. In the purest sense, God winters with you.
He wants you to have this type of love for others. Next time you are tempted to stay angry at a friend, ask the Lord to help you understand the way He loves you. Jesus came because of His forgiveness and willingness to restore even the most hardened sinners. He is our dearest Friend.

Lord, teach me to see others through Your eyes of love and to forgive when I have been unjustly hurt or accused.

Stanley, C. F. (2002). Seeking His face (p. 92). Thomas Nelson Publishers.

MARCH 28 | Learning to Forgive

SCRIPTURE READING: Genesis 50:14–20
KEY VERSE: Genesis 39:2

The Lord was with Joseph, and he was a successful man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian.

If you have been deeply hurt, you know healing takes time. But did you know that you cannot completely heal until you are willing to forgive the individual who hurt you? By forgiving, you are not saying that what he did was acceptable or even right.
Those who have suffered abuse know it is not easy to get past painful memories. However, if you want to experience true freedom, there must come a point at which you decide to let go of the bitterness and anger.
Joseph suffered during his imprisonment. He had been betrayed by his brothers and left in a pit. Rather than leave him there to die, they sold him to a group of traders, who took him to Egypt. For the first time in his life, Joseph was alone. The thought of his brothers’ rejection must have seemed incomprehensible.
However, “the LORD was with Joseph, so he became a successful man” (Gen. 39:2 NASB). Joseph did not spend his time thinking about what he could do to get even. He made the most of his situation without self-pity. By the end of the story, we learn that he not only forgave those who sought to harm him but also was used by God to save them.
God may not require this same type of action from you. Yet He does want you to learn to forgive. Until you do, you will remain captive. Forgiveness sets the heart and spirit free.

Father, place in my heart the ability to forgive as You forgive me. Help me let go of bitterness and anger.

Stanley, C. F. (2002). Seeking His face (p. 91). Thomas Nelson Publishers.

March 28 | FORGIVING AS YOU ARE FORGIVEN

“And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. … For if you forgive men for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions” (Matt. 6:12, 14–15).

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An unforgiving Christian is a contradiction in terms.

It’s possible to confess your sins and still not know the joy of forgiveness. How? Failure to forgive others! Christian educator J. Oswald Sanders observed that Jesus measures us by the yardstick we use on others. Jesus didn’t say, “Forgive us because we have forgiven others,” but “Forgive us as we have forgiven others.”
An unforgiving Christian is a contradiction in terms because we are the forgiven ones! Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” God forgave us an immeasurable debt, saving us from the horrors of eternal Hell. That should be motivation enough to forgive any offense against us, and yet some Christians still hold grudges.
Here are three practical steps by which to deal with the sin of unforgiveness. First, confess it to the Lord, and ask Him to help you mend the relationship in question. Second, go to the person, ask for forgiveness, and seek reconciliation. You might discover that he or she wasn’t even aware of the offense. Third, give the person something you highly value. This is a very practical approach based on our Lord’s teaching that where your treasure is, there your heart will be also (Matt. 6:21). Whenever I’ve given a book or other gift to someone who had wronged me, I’ve felt a great sense of liberty in my spirit. In addition, my joy is compounded because I feel the joy of giving as well as the joy of forgiving.
Don’t ever let a grudge stand between you and another person. It will rob you of the full joy of God’s forgiveness.

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Suggestions for Prayer: Before praying, examine your heart. If you harbor bitterness toward another person, follow the procedure given above. Then pray, thanking the Lord for the joy of reconciliation.

For Further Study: Read the Parable of the Servant in Matthew 18:21–35. ✧ What question prompted the parable? ✧ How did the king respond to his servant’s pleading? ✧ What did the servant do later on? Why was that wrong?

MacArthur, J. F., Jr. (1993). Drawing Near—Daily Readings for a Deeper Faith (p. 100). Crossway Books.